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Paulo Coelho on Awakening love

“Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings … Continue reading

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Thomas Merton on love & empathy

“To love another as a person we must begin by granting him his own autonomy and identity as a person. We have to love him for what he is in himself, and not for what he is to us. We … Continue reading

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Person-Centred Basics: Dave Mearns on the power dynamic

Another in our series of person-centred fundamentals, this time Dave Mearns on power. ‘The issue of “power” is fundamental to person-centred counselling. Indeed, the essential principle of the person-centred approach is that the counsellor does not take responsibility for the … Continue reading

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Michael Kahn on the ‘extraordinarily radical’ nature of person-centred

“Genuineness, empathy and unconditional positive regard – these, then, are the three attributes that Rogers thought necessary to a successful clinical relationship. I’m sure it has occurred to you that if any of us could always be fully genuine, empathic, … Continue reading

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Jeff Foster on the fundamentals of healing, teaching (& therapy)

Update 29 December: for some reason, this link is not showing up for all readers (thank you, Thad!). In case that includes you, the Jeff Foster quotation is:- “A true healer does not heal you; she simply reflects back to … Continue reading

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Person-centred basics: expertise of the person-centred counsellor – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne

The fourth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. ‘The person-centred counsellor must learn to wear her expertise as an invisible garment in order to be an effective counsellor. Experts are expected to dispense their expertise, to recommend what should … Continue reading

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Carl Rogers on remembering our humanity

“Before every session, I take a moment to remember my humanity. There is no experience that this man has that I cannot share with him, no fear that I cannot understand, no suffering that I cannot care about, because I … Continue reading

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