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Henri Frederic Amiel on Mystery

Posted on February 5, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Toko-pa is a regular here…and here we are grateful for this post on her Facebook page of Henri Amiel’s beautiful words and the gorgeous painting by Katherine Goncharova. This sense of respecting the mystery at the heart of ourselves, each other … Continue reading →

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Reasons not to use ‘timeouts’ or ‘naughty steps’

Posted on August 21, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Useful short film, explaining how ‘timeout’ or the ‘naughty step’ harm your relationship with your child and damage their ability to connect helpfully with their feelings and with you. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Marion Woodman on Growth

Posted on July 12, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is no growth without real feeling. Children not loved for who they are do not learn how to love themselves. Their growth is an exercise in pleasing others, not in expanding through experience. As adults, they must learn to … Continue reading →

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Trauma, injury, illness and waking up – Monica Cassani

Posted on June 6, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Trauma, injury, illness and waking up Click on the title link above for this post by Monica, whose site holds a great richness of resources for anyone seeking healing or seeking alternatives to the psychiatric model perspectives. This post has many … Continue reading →

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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on Reclaiming ourselves

Posted on March 6, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Reclaiming ourselves usually means coming to recognize and accept that we have in us both sides of everything. We are capable of fear and courage, generosity and selfishness, vulnerability and strength. These things do not cancel each other out but … Continue reading →

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A Fox & A Mouse – Award-winning animated short ESMA

Posted on January 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the You Tube link above for this touching short animation about separateness, encounter, empathy and evolving perceptions/relationship. The directors are Camille Chaix, Hugo Jean, Juliette Jourdan, Marie Pillier and Kevin Roger, with music by Clement Osmont and Olivier … Continue reading →

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Dr. Gabor Maté on Donald Trump, Traumaphobia & Compassion – John Lavitt

Posted on January 4, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-donald-trump-traumaphobia-and-compassion-interview ‘…a few days ago, I met a young woman who was an emergency room physician in Detroit, and she had graduated from medical school in Michigan. Although I knew the answer, I asked her how many lectures she had … Continue reading →

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