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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön: What to Do When You Lose It Completely

Posted on July 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Just under 3 minutes of gold from Pema. What she suggests is a pause, a directing of the attention inwards, rather than into an/another explosion outwards of resentment or aggression. The purpose is an opening and a softening, to self … Continue reading →

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Lessons from life undercover – AJ+

Posted on June 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Everybody believes they are the good guy….the only real way to disarm your enemy is to listen to them….as long as your enemy is a sub-human psychopath, that is going to attack you no matter what you do, this never … Continue reading →

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Human – Chiara Montaldo’s interview

Posted on May 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another interview clip from Yann Arthus-Bertrand’s film ‘Human’. This one feels especially relevant right now – something about engaging with reality, in place of story, and humanity, in place of ‘othering’. Here’s the short description for the ‘Human’ project/fim:- ‘What … Continue reading →

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An Open Letter of Hope to Parents – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on December 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2015/12/an-open-letter-of-hope-to-parents-around-the-world/ Message of hope for families feeling the pain and fear of some of what is happening in the world. This lovely site is full of helpful resources for parents and adults who want to find new, more helpful ways to relate … Continue reading →

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Jacob Appelbaum for openDemocracy

Posted on November 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The last of three posts themed around the current international political situation, and the profound issues and choices we all face. What do we think we are seeing, and what do we intend to do about it? ‘It is not … Continue reading →

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Jan’s Story

Posted on November 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

One of the things we notice in the world, is that hate has difficulty standing up to shared experiences of humanity. Empathy dissolves prejudice and separation. So it feels extremely important to share what this gentle, loving, creative young man has … Continue reading →

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