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Maya Luna, on staying with….

Posted on December 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful, accurate poem from Maya’s Facebook page. Here are the words, for anyone who has difficulty reading FB links:- “If you cannot help me If you cannot heal me If you cannot solve My problem Will you stay anyways? Just … Continue reading →

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Trauma, injury, illness and waking up – Monica Cassani

Posted on June 6, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Trauma, injury, illness and waking up Click on the title link above for this post by Monica, whose site holds a great richness of resources for anyone seeking healing or seeking alternatives to the psychiatric model perspectives. This post has many … Continue reading →

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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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Robert MacFarlane on reading the surface

Posted on March 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We too felt this was a profound passage and metaphor. Here’s the book link, to Robert’s wonderful book:- Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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What Chester Bennington’s death tells us about mental health awareness

Posted on July 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://doctorgoatblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/22/what-chester-benningtons-death-tells-us-about-mental-health-awareness/ Click on the link above for this wise, heartful post by an anonymous blogger who identifies as Dr Goat. This expresses much of how we make sense of human distress at this service. There is (for example) no evidence … Continue reading →

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Do Psychiatrists Harm their Patients out of Stupidity? Michael Cornwall

Posted on June 26, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.madinamerica.com/2017/06/do-psychiatrists-harm-patients-out-of-stupidity/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.madinamerica.com for this accurate, perceptive piece by Michael about the ‘disease model’ of psychiatry, which lacks both an evidence base and humanity, and challenges basic common sense. Michael is writing in the … Continue reading →

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‘People (often) don’t need help. They need love. Acceptance’ Monica Cassani

Posted on June 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://beyondmeds.com/2017/06/10/people-dont-need-help/ Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s superb resource site: http://www.beyondmeds.com This post describes person-centred in a nutshell, and is what we seek to offer at this service: holding loving space for a person as they explore … Continue reading →

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Hermann Hesse on Wisdom

Posted on June 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Short, sweet, hugely important…. “Wisdom cannot be imparted. Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else … Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, do wonders through … Continue reading →

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The Stranger in You – David Whyte

Posted on June 3, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit David’s Facebook page for another haunting image and some beautiful words… The theme of coming home to ourselves – including more of who we are – is so central to therapy. It is … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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