Monthly Archives: August 2016

Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Posted on August 31, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading →

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Diane Ackerman on the Great Mystery

Posted on August 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery. However many of life’s large, captivating principles and small, captivating details we may explore, unpuzzle, and learn by heart, there will still be vast unknown realms to lure us. If … Continue reading →

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Heartsong Church & Memphis Islamic Centre – Upworthy

Posted on August 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Update 28 August 2016: We are not clear why Upworthy has taken down this film, and will restore the link as/when we can. Click on the link for this incredibly beautiful, moving film from Upworthy – especially the moment when Mark … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa – The Sacred Descent

Posted on August 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Sacred Descent Click on the link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this brief reflection on allowing ourselves to drop down into our own darkness from a place of intention (rather than powerlessness):- ‘There in the underworld of grief, loss … Continue reading →

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Thomas Merton on love & empathy

Posted on August 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“To love another as a person we must begin by granting him his own autonomy and identity as a person. We have to love him for what he is in himself, and not for what he is to us. We … Continue reading →

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Unconditional – David Whyte

Posted on August 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty reading Facebook links:- ‘UNCONDITIONAL love is not fully possible. Unconditional love is the necessary, dream-like, and invisible shoreline that continually draws us to its edge but where we can never fully … Continue reading →

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Jeff Brown on triggers, mirrors and when to take the next exit

Posted on August 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I recognize that we have evolved beyond the point where we turn away from everyone that triggers us. We have come to understand that, sometimes, the trigger points us back in the direction of unhealed material that seeks resolution. This … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on finding our feelings in therapy

Posted on August 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I suspect we could all tell a story similar to that told by the playwright David Hare recalling his childhood in post-war Britain: ‘In the other half of our semi-detached lived a solicitor and his wife. She had perfectly mastered … Continue reading →

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Suzanne Moore on Leonard Cohen, death & Marianne

Posted on August 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/aug/08/leonard-cohen-letter-to-marianne-ihlen-was-poetic-and-candid?utm_term=Autofeed&CMP=fb_cif#link_time=1470654768 Click on the link for this article by Suzanne Moore about Leonard Cohen’s beautiful letter sent to Marianne Ihlen, his erstwhile partner and muse, as she lay dying at 81. The writer of this blog post cried considerably when … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön on Leaning in & Staying Present

Posted on August 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The next time you lose heart and you can’t bear to experience what you’re feeling, you might recall this instruction: change the way you see it and lean in. Instead of blaming our discomfort on outer circumstances or on our … Continue reading →

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