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Toko-pa Turner – False belonging & conditionality

Posted on October 3, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Our longing for community and purpose is so powerful that it can drive us to join groups, relationships, or systems of belief that, to our diminished or divided self, give the false impression of belonging. But places of false belonging … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa on Invitational presence

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →

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Francis Weller on remembering relationship with the earth

Posted on January 17, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Still, the ground beneath me felt unsteady, as though at any moment it could shake and easily take me to the ground. I stumbled upon what Zen priest and author Susan Murphy calls the koan of the earth. How do … Continue reading →

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Francis Weller on our shrunk & impoverished experience of being alive

Posted on November 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Two favourites, Jewels Wingfield herself, and Francis Weller…. Here are the words, for those who have difficulty following Facebook links:- “Modern technological society has forgotten what it feels like to be embedded in a living culture, one rich with stories … Continue reading →

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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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Your True Home – John O’Donohue

Posted on January 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit John O’Donohue’s page on Facebook for this beautiful meditation. We are struck that his conclusion is the same as Carl Rogers – when we are able to come home to ourselves and be … Continue reading →

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Sweet Darkness – David Whyte

Posted on October 19, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful, resonant words and photograph from David’s Facebook page. Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- ‘SWEET DARKNESS When your eyes are tired the world is tired also. When your vision has gone, no part of … Continue reading →

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The Moment – Margaret Atwood

Posted on October 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The moment when, after many years of hard work and a long voyage you stand in the centre of your room, house, half-acre, square mile, island, country, knowing at last how you got there, and say, I own this, is … Continue reading →

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Criticism: Are you willing to take the hit? Toko-pa

Posted on August 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2017/08/21/criticism-are-you-willing-to-take-the-hit/ Click on the above link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this helpful reflective piece, on our ability to receive criticism, and distinguish between what has the potential to teach us and what is harmful. ‘…there are two major consequences … Continue reading →

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Kristina Kuzmic on valuing & offering our gifts

Posted on July 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We like this. There’s a lot of positivity/law of attraction stuff around which seems unhelpful or even toxic – implying that, of we cannot feel better or improve our lives, we are somehow deficient or not trying hard enough … Continue reading →

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