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Henri Frederic Amiel on Mystery

Posted on February 5, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Toko-pa is a regular here…and here we are grateful for this post on her Facebook page of Henri Amiel’s beautiful words and the gorgeous painting by Katherine Goncharova. This sense of respecting the mystery at the heart of ourselves, each other … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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Lessons in breast feeding & non-racism – Laeaurra Flamehawk

Posted on December 14, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lessons in breast feeding and a lack of racism go together in my memory. It might seem an odd pairing in an era where wet nurses are rare. But it was once a common sight in the South to see … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on Courage

Posted on November 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, … Continue reading →

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Gender Equality in Iceland

Posted on October 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Encouraging little film from ITV about the Icelandic approach to gender equality. It ends by commenting there is still a 14% pay gap – which recently led to Icelandic women leaving work 14% earlier than their male counterparts, to make … Continue reading →

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What to do when you’re not the hero any more – Laurie Penny

Posted on January 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/culture/film/2015/12/what-do-when-youre-not-hero-any-more Good article from Laurie Penny, about the shifting sands of contemporary cultural heroism in fiction. The writer (like one of the commentators on the article) thinks Laurie is a touch unfair to Joseph Campbell, and that his work is more balanced, … Continue reading →

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Jane Fonda on Life’s Third Act for TEDx Women

Posted on October 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting talk by Jane about how the ascension of the human spirit reverses entropy (the universal arc of deterioration and decay), and how moving into our ‘Elder’ years has the potential to bring us ‘into wholeness, authenticity and wisdom’. The … Continue reading →

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