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Tag Archives: self doubt
Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough
Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →
Posted in abuse, acceptance, blaming, compassion, conditions of worth, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, Elizabeth Gilbert, emotions, empathy, empowerment, grief, growth, guilt, kindness & compassion, love, Palace Gate Counselling Service, presence, resilience, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, transformation, trauma, vulnerability, working with clients
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The Space Between Stories – Lissa Rankin
The Space Between Stories Click on the link for this beautiful, deep piece from Lissa. Here’s a taste:- “This week, I experienced a trauma that collapsed my story of self, yet a new story has not yet emerged. Charles Eisenstein … Continue reading →
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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert
” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →
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BrenĂ© Brown: Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count
Another useful talk from BrenĂ© Brown, which explores creativity, criticism and how she has learned to deal with it. She talks about how important it is that those of us she calls the ‘sweaty creatives’ – or, borrowing from Theodore Roosevelt’s famous words, … Continue reading →
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Reclaiming Sweet Freedom – 23 things that we need not explain justify or defend – Isabel Abbott
http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/09/reclaiming-sweet-freedom-23-things-that-we-need-not-explain-justify-or-defend/ Just gorgeous. This is written from the woman’s perspective, and the writer wants to expand it to include all of us (with any tweaks required to find the right fit for you). It’s wonderful, profound, poetic and important. Thanks, … Continue reading →
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Lost, David Whyte & Beyond Meds
http://beyondmeds.com/2015/05/17/stand-still/ Click on the link to visit http://www.beyondmeds.com, for a post including this astonishing poem by David Wagoner:- Lost ‘Stand still. The trees ahead and bushes beside you Are not lost. Wherever you are is called Here, And you must … Continue reading →
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