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What is my motivation to contribute to the world – Thomas Hübl

Posted on December 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Brief, useful film about the personal and subjective nature of reality, and the importance of reflective process into our motivating emotions underlying what we do in the world… How, simply by beginning this enquiry, we connect more deeply with ourselves, others … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Resting

Posted on December 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have not long posted a David Whyte link – and this feels so seasonally appropriate, and so lovely, that we are indulging ourselves. With hope that – wherever you are, and whatever this time of year has meant and … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on Addiction, change & relationship with someone who is addicted

Posted on October 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘To live with an addict of any kind is frustrating, emotionally painful and often infuriating. Family, friends and spouse may feel they are dealing with a double personality: one sane and lovable, the other devious and uncaring. They believe the … Continue reading →

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Thomas Merton on where to focus in our working

Posted on September 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Do not depend on the hope of results. You may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you … Continue reading →

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When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading →

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John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

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