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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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Dr. Gabor Maté on Donald Trump, Traumaphobia & Compassion – John Lavitt

Posted on January 4, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-donald-trump-traumaphobia-and-compassion-interview ‘…a few days ago, I met a young woman who was an emergency room physician in Detroit, and she had graduated from medical school in Michigan. Although I knew the answer, I asked her how many lectures she had … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on Grief, Praise, Love & Presence

Posted on December 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text for those who have difficulty following Facebook links:- ‘I wrote this a few years ago: Spiritual teachers, philosophers and some psychotherapists tell us that it is beneficial to live in the present moment, that ultimately only the … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on the curse, & blessing, of the Geis

Posted on February 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is an interesting post from Jason Hine, on the ‘Geis’ theme. It’s a ‘friends only’ Facebook post, which he has kindly given us permission to re-post. Jason links to an article on http://www.mythandmore.com – link right at the bottom of … Continue reading →

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To Go Beyond Thought – Karen Armstrong

Posted on February 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for a wonderful, wide-ranging piece by Karen, with gratitude to Parabola Magazine. Here’s a taste:- ‘When a child dies, we want a scientific explanation but that’s not all we need. We need some kind of … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on cultural beliefs

Posted on September 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“…there is considerably less violence in cultures where people think in terms of human needs than in cultures where people label one another as “good” or “bad” and believe that the “bad” ones deserve to be punished.” Marshall B. Rosenberg, … Continue reading →

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