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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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George Monbiot – Why I ate a roadkill squirrel

Posted on September 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/environment/2015/aug/27/why-i-ate-a-roadkill-squirrel ‘….it seems to me that some people have confused what is customary with what is ethical.’ Challenging, thought-provoking piece from George, well worth a read. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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This Is What A Suicidal Crisis Looks Like From The Inside – Alaina Mabaso

Posted on September 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.depressionarmy.com/ourblog/2015/8/2/this-is-what-a-suicidal-crisis-looks-like-from-the-inside Very powerful piece by Alaina, for which many thanks. I know this landscape of bleak despair, and the urge to die. Since I was a teenager, I have visited it from time to time. During my training as a … Continue reading →

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How Societies with Little Coercion Have Little Mental Illness – Bruce Levine

Posted on August 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://brucelevine.net/how-societies-with-little-coercion-have-little-mental-illness/ ‘Coercion—the use of physical, legal, chemical, psychological, financial, and other forces to gain compliance—is intrinsic to our society’s employment, schooling, and parenting. However, coercion results in fear and resentment, which are fuels for miserable marriages, unhappy families, and what … Continue reading →

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