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Dreamspeak: Tiny Acorn; Mighty Oak – Toko-pa

Posted on October 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2007/08/17/dreamspeak-tiny-acorn-mighty-oak/ Click on the link above to visit Toko-pa’s site for this beautiful and important piece on the personal and collective significance of dreaming, the ‘daimon’ and creativity in its widest sense:- ‘The daimon is in your goosebumps and sudden … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

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What to do when you’re not the hero any more – Laurie Penny

Posted on January 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/culture/film/2015/12/what-do-when-youre-not-hero-any-more Good article from Laurie Penny, about the shifting sands of contemporary cultural heroism in fiction. The writer (like one of the commentators on the article) thinks Laurie is a touch unfair to Joseph Campbell, and that his work is more balanced, … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1408866730/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448297023&sr=1-1&keywords=elizabeth+gilbert+big+magic And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/mary-gauthier-mercy-now/ Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on the true essence of the masculine

Posted on October 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely piece from Jason Hine about masculinity in our existing cultures, and in potentia. Try clicking on the title, but the link here has been problematic so, in case you cannot see it, here is a cut-and-paste! ‘I feel it … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on building trust via the core conditions

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The second in our occasional series of refreshers in some of the fundamentals of a person-centred approach to therapeutic work. The following examples from Dave and Brian cluster around the central theme of building trust, and which core conditions may … Continue reading →

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The Longing for Belonging – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on August 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/charles-eisenstein/indigeneity-and-belonging_b_8011302.html Originally written for our local Schumacher College, in the context of a course Charles was leading. Charles features regularly on this blog – the writer believes him to be one of the important thinkers and writers of our time. … Continue reading →

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Thomas Merton on Not Knowing & Intention/Presence

Posted on June 26, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith and … Continue reading →

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Living beyond limits: Amy Purdy at TEDxOrangeCoast

Posted on June 15, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If my life were a book, and I were the author, how would I want the story to go?” Amy as phoenix, rising from the ashes of her life to realize herself. “I was absolutely physically and emotionally broken”. Found … Continue reading →

Posted in actualizing tendency, creativity, empowerment, healing, human condition, physical being, sadness & pain, TED, therapeutic growth, transformation, trauma | Tagged adversity, Amy Purdy, boundaries, challenge, creativity, healing, imagination, limits, physical being, TED, TEDx, TEDxOrangeCoast, therapeutic growth | Leave a comment

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