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Suzanne Moore on Leonard Cohen, death & Marianne

Posted on August 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/aug/08/leonard-cohen-letter-to-marianne-ihlen-was-poetic-and-candid?utm_term=Autofeed&CMP=fb_cif#link_time=1470654768 Click on the link for this article by Suzanne Moore about Leonard Cohen’s beautiful letter sent to Marianne Ihlen, his erstwhile partner and muse, as she lay dying at 81. The writer of this blog post cried considerably when … Continue reading →

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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

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The Life of Death – Marsha Onderstijn

Posted on February 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Extraordinarily resonant and tender animated film, about relationship, love, loss and letting go. Five minutes of beauty and heartswell. The writer sobbed, and felt softer and more loving afterwards. Gorgeous music too by Ramon de Wilde. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts – You’re It

Posted on December 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Alan Watts doing what he does…. On the nature of reality, and on fear. Deep and thoughtful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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The Mirror – Soul Searching Solace

Posted on November 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulsearchingsolace.com/2015/10/12/the-mirror/ Some time ago, the writer encountered this blog. The author shares with raw authenticity her intense pain – that of a mother whose child has died. There is a lot here to resonate with those of us who are … Continue reading →

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on the challenges (and grace) of being alive

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Love and service are my business’ With humour, grace and gratitude. Thanks, Anne. Helpful reminders. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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‘Like a silkworm weaving’ Akka Mahadevi – the eclipse, shadow & growth by Ivan Granger

Posted on October 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.poetry-chaikhana.com/blog/2015/09/30/akka-mahadevi-like-a-silkworm-weaving/ Beautiful poem by Akka Mahadevi, and profound and beautifully expressed reflections by Ivan in the wake of September’s lunar eclipse. Here’s a taste:- ‘The thing about the dark parts of life and the dark parts of our own psyches … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Heartbreak

Posted on October 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘…heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average life…’ Beautiful, moving, elegiac reflections from David on the meaning and hidden treasures of heartbreak. The writer believes we have an unhelpful cultural tendency … Continue reading →

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Stephen Jenkinson – The Making of Humans

Posted on October 8, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely short film from Ian MacKenzie, featuring Stephen Jenkinson’s work through his and Nathalie Jenkinson’s Orphan Wisdom School, which Stephen describes on his website as ‘a teaching house and learning house for the skills of deep living and making human culture. … Continue reading →

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