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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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‘People (often) don’t need help. They need love. Acceptance’ Monica Cassani

Posted on June 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://beyondmeds.com/2017/06/10/people-dont-need-help/ Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s superb resource site: http://www.beyondmeds.com This post describes person-centred in a nutshell, and is what we seek to offer at this service: holding loving space for a person as they explore … Continue reading →

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Anthony Lemme on saying ‘yes’ & permission

Posted on May 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Your place is not to tell yourself no; your place is to say yes and then find a way. Whatever it is, it doesn’t need to be perfect, it doesn’t need to be fancy, it doesn’t need to be big. … Continue reading →

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Gil Bailie on the Crucifixion & Blame

Posted on April 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The surest way to miss the link between the cure (the crucifixion and its aftereffects) and the disease (the structures of scapegoating violence upon which all human social arrangements have depended) is to read the passion story with an eye … Continue reading →

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A ‘white guy’s’ perspective on narratives about white colonialism, feminism & stuff – Micah Ingle

Posted on February 16, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to visit Micah’s Facebook page for this post – which resonated strongly with the writer. Micah has featured here before. He is a Texan psychologist and counsellor. We experience him as heartful and wise. Here, it’s … Continue reading →

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Teacher Chen Miller on connecting with a distressed child

Posted on December 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to visit Facebook, for this remarkable little film about teacher, Chen Miller. A person-centred way of engaging with distress… Chen is bang on about what works – whatever our age may be. The words in which … Continue reading →

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Maya Angelou on Forgiving yourself

Posted on October 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on being & expressing yourself

Posted on October 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘you tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful but i was not made with a fire in my belly so i could be put out i was not made with a lightness in my tongue … Continue reading →

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Raising your Havingness Ceiling – Toko-pa

Posted on October 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Raising your Havingness Ceiling Click on the above link for this wonderful post by Toko-pa, who is regularly featured here:- ‘As soon as we begin to feel resigned with things being as they are, it is time to resume the … Continue reading →

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Upworthy – Challenging body-shaming

Posted on September 16, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Shaming seems to have become a bloodsport in our culture. It arises from damage and perpetuates damage. There is never any justification for it, and it seems to us deeply important to challenge it – as many of us … Continue reading →

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