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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading

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Jeff Foster on the fundamentals of healing, teaching (& therapy)

Update 29 December: for some reason, this link is not showing up for all readers (thank you, Thad!). In case that includes you, the Jeff Foster quotation is:- “A true healer does not heal you; she simply reflects back to … Continue reading

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Gabor Maté on Addiction, change & relationship with someone who is addicted

‘To live with an addict of any kind is frustrating, emotionally painful and often infuriating. Family, friends and spouse may feel they are dealing with a double personality: one sane and lovable, the other devious and uncaring. They believe the … Continue reading

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Marshall Rosenberg on cultural beliefs

“…there is considerably less violence in cultures where people think in terms of human needs than in cultures where people label one another as “good” or “bad” and believe that the “bad” ones deserve to be punished.” Marshall B. Rosenberg, … Continue reading

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When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading

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