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Francis Weller on Grief

Posted on December 6, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Grief is subversive, undermining the quiet agreement to behave and be in control of our emotions. It is an act of protest that declares our refusal to live numb and small. There is something feral about grief, something essentially outside … Continue reading →

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Thanks by W.S. Merwin

Posted on November 26, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Listen with the night falling we are saying thank you we are stopping on the bridges to bow from the railings we are running out of the glass rooms with our mouths full of food to look at the sky … Continue reading →

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Adrift – Mark Nepo

Posted on October 10, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Everything is beautiful and I am so sad. This is how the heart makes a duet of wonder and grief. The light spraying through the lace of the fern is as delicate as the fibers of memory forming their web … Continue reading →

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Posted on September 10, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if … Continue reading →

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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on the nature of grief

Posted on March 21, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“And I felt like my heart had been so thoroughly and irreparably broken that there could be no real joy again, that at best there might eventually be a little contentment. Everyone wanted me to get help and rejoin life, … Continue reading →

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I am not your fault – Charlotte Eriksson

Posted on December 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“So I am not a broken heart. I am not the weight I lost or miles or ran and I am not the way I slept on my doorstep under the bare sky in smell of tears and whiskey because … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on our need to grieve

Posted on November 24, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every great loss demands that we choose life again. We need to grieve in order to do this. The pain we have not grieved over will always stand between us and life. When we don’t grieve, a part of us … Continue reading →

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The Touch of Madness – David Dobbs

Posted on October 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://psmag.com/magazine/the-touch-of-madness-mental-health-schizophrenia Click on the link above for this wonderful (lengthy – and well worth the time investment) piece. Nev’s perspective aligns with how we see ‘madness’ at this service. Thank you, David – and Nev. Also thanks to Jason Hine, … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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