Monthly Archives: January 2016

HUMAN: Kindness can come from anywhere

Posted on January 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘What magic, this out-stretched hand. Like sparks of light in what we call human folly.’ Watched this with tears. Here’s the short description for the ‘Human’ project/fim:- ‘What is it that makes us human? Is it that we love, that … Continue reading →

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‘In the bleakness of the Calais migrant camp, a light shines out’ Jonathan Freedland

Posted on January 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/dec/25/calais-migrant-camp-refugees?CMP=fb_gu The writer has been watching the refugee crisis and the Calais situation with a similar mix of anger, despair and hope. It seems ever more futile to look to elected governments for ethics or humanity or any interest in the … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics: Dave Mearns on the power dynamic

Posted on January 24, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another in our series of person-centred fundamentals, this time Dave Mearns on power. ‘The issue of “power” is fundamental to person-centred counselling. Indeed, the essential principle of the person-centred approach is that the counsellor does not take responsibility for the … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians, speaking to the U.N. in Paris Here’s the text of … Continue reading →

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Michael Kahn on the ‘extraordinarily radical’ nature of person-centred

Posted on January 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Genuineness, empathy and unconditional positive regard – these, then, are the three attributes that Rogers thought necessary to a successful clinical relationship. I’m sure it has occurred to you that if any of us could always be fully genuine, empathic, … Continue reading →

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Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians, speaking to the U.N. in Paris

Posted on January 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer finds it deeply disturbing to hear this 15 year old boy speak with passion about what affects us all, while the adults behind him disregard both him and his message…The comments on the video published on the internet tell … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

Posted on January 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →

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Carl Rogers on Loneliness

Posted on January 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There are many ways of looking at loneliness, but I wish to focus on two elements of the sense of aloneness which we so often see in our clients and in others. The first is the estrangement of man from … Continue reading →

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Enoughness: Restoring Balance – Films for Action

Posted on January 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.filmsforaction.org/watch/enoughness_restoring_balance_to_the_economy Click on the above link for this concise, clear, short film about how our unsustainable economic/philosophic model compares with sustainable models drawn from indigenous cultures. Here’s the film-makers’ website:- http://www.firstpeoples.org/ We like the following banner quotation from it:- “Look and listen … Continue reading →

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Through a Window – Jane Goodall

Posted on January 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thank you to John Clapham for showing this to the writer. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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