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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her – Vera De Chalambert

Posted on December 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2016/11/18/veradechalambert-kali/ Click on the link to visit http://www.rebellesociety.com for Vera’s brilliant article, which lays a sensitive finger on the cultural pulse – and not only in the U.S. Reading this, the writer felt it was the most important thing she … Continue reading →

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‘The Guardianship’ Toko-pa

Posted on December 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2014/04/30/the-guardianship/ Click on the link above to visit Toko-pa’s website for this beautiful post. Toko-pa writes often on the importance of allowing inward space and time for our emergences and unfoldings, for formlessness and ambiguity, before we are ready to bring ourselves to … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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The Space Between Stories – Lissa Rankin

Posted on August 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Space Between Stories Click on the link for this beautiful, deep piece from Lissa. Here’s a taste:- “This week, I experienced a trauma that collapsed my story of self, yet a new story has not yet emerged. Charles Eisenstein … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

Posted on January 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →

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John Welwood on awakening from our conditioning

Posted on December 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If Love is like a sun whose radiant warmth causes us to stir and expand inside the seed of the husk of our conditioned personality, then as this protective shell starts to crack open, we are bound to experience moments of … Continue reading →

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‘Like a silkworm weaving’ Akka Mahadevi – the eclipse, shadow & growth by Ivan Granger

Posted on October 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.poetry-chaikhana.com/blog/2015/09/30/akka-mahadevi-like-a-silkworm-weaving/ Beautiful poem by Akka Mahadevi, and profound and beautifully expressed reflections by Ivan in the wake of September’s lunar eclipse. Here’s a taste:- ‘The thing about the dark parts of life and the dark parts of our own psyches … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön on the idea of Karma

Posted on September 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“People get into a heavy-duty sin and guilt trip, feeling that if things are going wrong, that means that they did something bad and they are being punished. That’s not the idea at all. The idea of karma is that … Continue reading →

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