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What about when meditation doesn’t help with anxiety?

Posted on March 10, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.nondualtherapy.life/2018/01/28/q-what-about-when-meditation-doesnt-help-with-anxiety/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.nondualtherapy.life for this helpful response to a reader’s question. Our experience is that very often people’s understanding of what meditation or mindfulness offers, is distorted and misses the heart of the practice … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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The Space Between Stories – Lissa Rankin

Posted on August 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Space Between Stories Click on the link for this beautiful, deep piece from Lissa. Here’s a taste:- “This week, I experienced a trauma that collapsed my story of self, yet a new story has not yet emerged. Charles Eisenstein … Continue reading →

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On Becoming a Beautiful Mind – John O’Donohue

Posted on July 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Art Of Developing A Beautiful Mind Follow the link for this brief and poignant summary of a talk that John intended to give in Canada in 2008 – had death not intervened. It seems to sum up some of the essence … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics: Dave Mearns on the power dynamic

Posted on January 24, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another in our series of person-centred fundamentals, this time Dave Mearns on power. ‘The issue of “power” is fundamental to person-centred counselling. Indeed, the essential principle of the person-centred approach is that the counsellor does not take responsibility for the … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

Posted on November 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté – Toxic Culture, Bioneers Conference 2012

Posted on May 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The birth and death of any phenomena is connected to the birth and death of all other phenomena. The one contains the many, and the many contains the one.’ The Buddha Insightful talk that the ever-watchable Gabor Maté gave at … Continue reading →

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Lost, David Whyte & Beyond Meds

Posted on May 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2015/05/17/stand-still/ Click on the link to visit http://www.beyondmeds.com, for a post including this astonishing poem by David Wagoner:- Lost ‘Stand still. The trees ahead and bushes beside you Are not lost. Wherever you are is called Here, And you must … Continue reading →

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Haruki Murakami on Not Resisting the Flow

Posted on October 6, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The point is, not to resist the flow. You go up when you’re supposed to go up and down when you’re supposed to go down. When you’re supposed to go up, find the highest tower and climb to the top. … Continue reading →

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