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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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The Lid is Off – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on October 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Lid is Off Click on the link above for this perceptive, important piece by Charles Eisenstein on www/charleseisenstein.net And here are some book links:- https://www.amazon.co.uk/Beautiful-Hearts-Possible-Sacred-Activism/dp/1583947248/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-1&keywords=charles+eisenstein https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sacred-Economics-Money-Society-Transition/dp/1583943978/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-2&keywords=charles+Eisenstein https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ascent-Humanity-Civilization-Human-Sense/dp/1583946365/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-3&keywords=charles+eisenstein Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Carl Rogers on Loneliness

Posted on January 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There are many ways of looking at loneliness, but I wish to focus on two elements of the sense of aloneness which we so often see in our clients and in others. The first is the estrangement of man from … Continue reading →

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James Baldwin on Love

Posted on November 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within. I use the word “love” here not merely in the personal sense but as a state of being, or a state of … Continue reading →

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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Gabrielle Roth, 1941-2012: Disciple of the Deep Dark Divine – Eliezer Sobel

Posted on October 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-99th-monkey/201310/gabrielle-roth-1941-2012-disciple-the-deep-dark-divine ‘You didn’t really think this was about dancing, did you?’ This is the follow up to yesterday’s short film showing 5 Rhythms dance, a wonderful article by Eliezer about Gabrielle Roth, the movement’s founder. There is a lot in … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on ‘Hiding’

Posted on March 23, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

David Whyte on ‘Hiding’ Click on the title for the full excerpt on Facebook. Subtle, complex, perceptive words from David Whyte’s essay on ‘Hiding’, in his forthcoming book of essays: CONSOLATIONS: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words. Any therapist … Continue reading →

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