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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on being & expressing yourself

Posted on October 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘you tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful but i was not made with a fire in my belly so i could be put out i was not made with a lightness in my tongue … Continue reading →

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Contracting & suicidal thoughts, a person-centred perspective

Posted on March 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is the text of a recent email to our therapists on these themes. We are aware of the very different way in which these issues are addressed within the NHS/similar medicalized contexts in health and social care – and the extent to which … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics: Dave Mearns on the power dynamic

Posted on January 24, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another in our series of person-centred fundamentals, this time Dave Mearns on power. ‘The issue of “power” is fundamental to person-centred counselling. Indeed, the essential principle of the person-centred approach is that the counsellor does not take responsibility for the … Continue reading →

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Person-centredness in action

Posted on January 13, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This 11 1/2 minute film clip shows an amazing 13 year old boy addressing a large ‘TED’* audience at the University of Nevada on the subject of ‘What happens when a kid leaves traditional education’. What he says is enough … Continue reading →

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