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Brian Thorne on belovedness, sexuality & power in therapy

Posted on May 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

In the passage before this excerpt, Brian has been talking about the idea of the ‘beloved’, in the context of the writings of Julian of Norwich. How any of us makes sense of ‘beloved’ will depend on personal experiences and conceptual structures/language. It is an … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics: Dave Mearns on the power dynamic

Posted on January 24, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another in our series of person-centred fundamentals, this time Dave Mearns on power. ‘The issue of “power” is fundamental to person-centred counselling. Indeed, the essential principle of the person-centred approach is that the counsellor does not take responsibility for the … Continue reading →

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Brian Thorne on the awesome task of the person-centred therapist

Posted on October 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The person-centred therapist is charged with the awesome task of becoming fully human and the core conditions are the applied practice of that task. It is as if the work of the professional therapist in the person-centred tradition constitutes a … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on judgement as a reflection of the self

Posted on August 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Whenever we are judgmental of other people, especially if we have strong feelings around those judgements, you can be sure that it’s all about ourselves, that we are projecting our own self dislike onto somebody else. Therefore we don’t have … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa: The Unsplit-off Life

Posted on August 5, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2014/07/23/the-unsplit-off-life/ Click on the link to go to Toko-pa’s wonderful blog, which offers deep wisdom in beautiful, poetic language – this post is an excerpt from her upcoming book ‘On Belonging’, and speaks off what in ourselves/our lives we disown … Continue reading →

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