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Matt Licata on being received as we are

Posted on April 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer loved the Sigmund Freud quote…. Resonates with how we see therapy at this service, and the person-centred approach. Being received with love, just as we are right now, is such a powerful healing agent….. It seems a tragedy – when Sigmund Freud could … Continue reading →

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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

Posted on January 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on Community (with some thoughts on person-centred supervision)

Posted on August 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Community is a synthesis between mutuality and individuality. The truer the community, the more solid the individuals within it. To put it another way, people best achieve individuality in a true community and they create a true community only when … Continue reading →

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Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch – Mark Greene

Posted on March 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-touch-isolation-how-homophobia-has-robbed-men-of-touch/ Intelligent and humane article from Mark Greene via http://www.goodmenproject.com. In the writer’s view, this is a cultural issue going beyond touch between men, and issues around sexual identity or homophobia – huge as these are. As Mark acknowledges, our … Continue reading →

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Michael Eigen on contact and suffering

Posted on January 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Psychoanalysis often says that increased capacity for contact involves increased ability to undergo suffering. A person works towards sustaining intense psychic pressures. For example, Winnicott writes, ‘probably the greatest suffering in the human world is the suffering of the normal … Continue reading →

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