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Matt Licata on Ego

Posted on October 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Ego’ for many of us becomes a term of abuse for self/other and source of shame. Here’s a radically different and far more accurate/useful take on this…. Thanks, Matt. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Shadow Work & Love

Posted on September 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here is the text for those who have difficulty in reading Facebook links:- ‘To do the work of the shadow, to travel along the descendent current with your heart open, is a radical act of kindness and courage. For when … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on being received as we are

Posted on April 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer loved the Sigmund Freud quote…. Resonates with how we see therapy at this service, and the person-centred approach. Being received with love, just as we are right now, is such a powerful healing agent….. It seems a tragedy – when Sigmund Freud could … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on when the ground falls away

Posted on March 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is noticing how hard, painful and confusing life is feeling for many in her world, both those she works with therapeutically and others – and how this is often her experience too at the moment. Lots of change and loss … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on wholeness and the dark places of the psyche

Posted on February 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s a post from Matt Licata on embodiment, vulnerability and the ‘unfolding now’. One of our readers has had an issue with not being able to read FB links, so here is the text, just in case:- “Let us not forget … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

Posted on January 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Trust in the Fires of Disintegration

Posted on January 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Matt Licata on how our movement into what Carl Rogers described as ‘the good life’ – as we actualise – tends to involve our feeling our feelings more intensely, and more connection to our vulnerability, rather than the floaty Zen detachment … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on stepping into our lives

Posted on April 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thank you to Steph Bradley on Facebook for reposting this lovely poem, and thank you to Matt Licata for writing it. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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Matt Licata – Jewels hidden in the dark soil of the body

Posted on December 31, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/12/20/jewels-hidden-in-the-dark-soil-of-the-body/ Click on the link to visit http://www.beyondmeds.com, for this post on what we need from each other when we are in pain….and the value of the darkness as well as the light. May 2015 bring us all less pain … Continue reading →

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Secret jewels of the darkness – Matt Licata

Posted on October 20, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/10/19/secret-jewels-of-the-darkness/ Click on the link to visit http://www.beyondmeds.com for this lovely post on the therapeutic journey into wholeness (be that through talking therapy or any of the many, many other paths). Matt puts this in terms of moving from the … Continue reading →

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