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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on unfettered capitalism & coercive conformity

Posted on September 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The past two decades have witnessed unprecedented changes in the economic and political organisation of the world. We live, we are constantly told, in the era of globalisation, a euphemism for the triumph throughout the world of the so-called free … Continue reading →

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Mary Oliver on Love & its necessary wildness – Brainpickings

Posted on March 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Mary Oliver on Love and Its Necessary Wildness Lovely piece, beautiful poems, and a wonderful conversation between Mary and Krista Tippett for On Being – as Maria says ‘feast your soul’. Thank you, as ever, to Maria Popova and Brainpickings. Here’s the book … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts – You’re It

Posted on December 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Alan Watts doing what he does…. On the nature of reality, and on fear. Deep and thoughtful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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There is nothing wrong with you

Posted on October 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/07/06/there-is-nothing-wrong/ Very helpful post, as so often, from Monica Cassani’s rich collection of resources, links, articles and reflections: http://www.beyondmeds.com Monica’s body of work is invaluable to anyone engaging with what it is to be human, anyone working in our own … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on Community (with some thoughts on person-centred supervision)

Posted on August 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Community is a synthesis between mutuality and individuality. The truer the community, the more solid the individuals within it. To put it another way, people best achieve individuality in a true community and they create a true community only when … Continue reading →

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An Antidote to the Age of Anxiety: Alan Watts on Happiness & How to Live with Presence – Maria Popova

Posted on May 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.brainpickings.org/index.php/2014/01/06/alan-watts-wisdom-of-insecurity-1/ Useful article from Maria Popova at http://www.brainpickings.org on Alan Watts and ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’. The writer especially liked Alan’s observations about awareness and thought:- ‘While you are watching this present experience, are you aware of someone watching it? … Continue reading →

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Neutralising suffering: how the medicalisation of distress obliterates meaning and creates profit – Joanna Moncrieff

Posted on March 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://joannamoncrieff.com/2014/03/11/neutralising-suffering-how-the-medicalisation-of-distress-obliterates-meaning-and-creates-profit/ Important article by Joanna Moncrieff, an M.D. who writes and speaks extensively on this theme. ‘Drugs have now been starkly divided into the good and the bad: the prescribed medication which people must take however awful it makes them … Continue reading →

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Resisting “Children’s Mental Health Care” in America and Beyond – Laura Delano

Posted on March 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://recoveringfrompsychiatry.com/2015/03/childrens-mental-health-care-in-america/ Click on the link for Laura’s powerful piece about medicating our children. This has a U.S. perspective – and these are also live issues in the U.K. We are concerned about many aspects of this, not least the power … Continue reading →

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