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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Seeking Sanctuary in Our Own Sacred Spaces – Parker J. Palmer

Posted on September 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.onbeing.org/blog/parker-palmer-seeking-sanctuary-in-our-own-sacred-spaces/8928 Click on the link to visit http://www.onbeing.org for this wonderful piece by Parker J Palmer on the importance of creating sanctuary in our lives, to support our doing what we can to survive in – and challenge – the … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa – The Sacred Descent

Posted on August 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Sacred Descent Click on the link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this brief reflection on allowing ourselves to drop down into our own darkness from a place of intention (rather than powerlessness):- ‘There in the underworld of grief, loss … Continue reading →

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Erich Fromm on the situation of a sane man in an insane culture

Posted on February 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who … Continue reading →

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Michael Kahn on the ‘extraordinarily radical’ nature of person-centred

Posted on January 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Genuineness, empathy and unconditional positive regard – these, then, are the three attributes that Rogers thought necessary to a successful clinical relationship. I’m sure it has occurred to you that if any of us could always be fully genuine, empathic, … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on the true essence of the masculine

Posted on October 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely piece from Jason Hine about masculinity in our existing cultures, and in potentia. Try clicking on the title, but the link here has been problematic so, in case you cannot see it, here is a cut-and-paste! ‘I feel it … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa – Redeeming Medicine of Dark Dreams

Posted on July 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2015/06/30/redeeming-medicine-of-dark-dreams/ Interesting post from Toko-pa about her beginnings with dream work, which is so key to her own work and practice now:- ‘The deeper I went into my own darkness, the richer my life became.’ Or, as Jung puts it:- … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on what we actually need to hear….

Posted on May 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Well said. Often people come to this service who have been offered these pieces of advice or would-be comforting perceptions. They’ve heard them at home, from colleagues, on ‘inspirational’ sites, from a religious perspective, from therapists… this stuff pops up … Continue reading →

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Michael Mantas on Grief, Empathy, Compassion & Ritual

Posted on October 16, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Michael Mantas has kindly given us permission to blog his Facebook post of this touching film, showing a little boy grieving for a dead fish – and Michael’s comments on death and empathy which we thought were beautiful, and which … Continue reading →

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