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Small Gods – Martin Shaw

Posted on October 22, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://drmartinshaw.com/essays/ Click on the link above for another powerful piece from Martin. Here’s a taste:- ‘Once upon a time there was a lonely hunter. One evening, returning to his hut over the snow, he saw smoke coming from his chimney. … Continue reading →

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Ram Dass on getting free & acknowledging interdependence

Posted on November 14, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I would say that the thrust of my life has been initially about getting free, and then realizing that my freedom is not independent of everybody else. Then I am arriving at that circle where one works on oneself as … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on criticism of self/other

Posted on November 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves. As author and mythologist Joseph Campbell suggested, “‘What will they think of me?’ must be put aside for bliss.” … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on Responding to current challenges

Posted on August 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

More compassion and wisdom from Anne Lamott, for our U.S. readers, and all of us feeling fear and grief about some of what is happening in our world. Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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‘People (often) don’t need help. They need love. Acceptance’ Monica Cassani

Posted on June 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://beyondmeds.com/2017/06/10/people-dont-need-help/ Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s superb resource site: http://www.beyondmeds.com This post describes person-centred in a nutshell, and is what we seek to offer at this service: holding loving space for a person as they explore … Continue reading →

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We Were Made For These Times – Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Posted on May 18, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.grahameb.com/pinkola_estes.htm Click on the link for this beautiful and inspiring piece from Clarissa. It won’t be new to some of you….and stands repeating. Thanks to Jewels Wingfield on Facebook for a timely reminder of this passage, in the run up … Continue reading →

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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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‘The Poet and the Shepherd’ by Joshua Boettiger

Posted on February 10, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/01/31/the-poet-and-the-shepherd-by-joshua-boettiger/ Click on the link to visit Parabola Magazine for this astonishing article by Joshua Boettiger:- ‘We could say the search for meaning – which is a holy search – becomes imperiled whenever the poet-self and the shepherd-self are out … Continue reading →

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James O’Dea on peacebuilding

Posted on February 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Those who recognize our essential qualities are the true peacebuilders: they let us know that they see the significance of our lives. Meanness of spirit stems from a place of neglect and the absence of nurturance and love. When we … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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