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HUMAN: Kindness can come from anywhere

Posted on January 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘What magic, this out-stretched hand. Like sparks of light in what we call human folly.’ Watched this with tears. Here’s the short description for the ‘Human’ project/fim:- ‘What is it that makes us human? Is it that we love, that … Continue reading →

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Human – Francine Christophe

Posted on November 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

An excerpt from Yann Arthus-Bertrand’s remarkable film, ‘Human’. It speaks for itself. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to … Continue reading →

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Human

Posted on November 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

For the writer, this says all that is necessary. It illustrates what is (catastrophically) left out of account by the ‘perpetrator’/’victim’ binary mindset favoured in our cultures as they stand…. Thank you to Yaacov Darling Khan for posting this on Facebook, and … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on the challenges (and grace) of being alive

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Love and service are my business’ With humour, grace and gratitude. Thanks, Anne. Helpful reminders. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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If They Stayed: A Letter to You – Kristin Ryan

Posted on October 13, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://iamnotasilentpoet.wordpress.com/2015/10/13/if-they-stayed-a-letter-to-you-by-kristin-ryan/ Powerful piece by Kristin. With many thanks to her, and also thanks to ‘I am not a silent poet’ and Reuben Woolley. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Aaron Paquette on Addiction

Posted on February 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This link is to Aaron’s Facebook page. Aaron is a First Nations Metis artist, author and speaker, based in Edmonton, Aberta. This post is about addiction. He makes sense of this much as we do at this service, and similarly … Continue reading →

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The Scarlet Label: Close Encounters with ‘Borderline Personality Disorder’ Jacqueline Simon Gunn & Brent Potter

Posted on October 24, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.madinamerica.com/2014/10/scarlet-label-close-encounters-borderline-personality-disorder/ Click on the link for Jacqueline’s and Brent’s article for Mad in America, which makes some interesting points, as do some of the comments (for example around the medicalization of distress/the human condition, and around gender bias in the … Continue reading →

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