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2016: The Reveal – Charlotte Du Cann

Posted on December 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://dark-mountain.net/blog/2016-the-reveal/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.dark-mountain.net for Charlotte’s article, another powerful Zeitgeist piece at the end of a big, shadow-filled year:- ‘This alchemical moment has nothing to do with social justice, or environmentalism or any of the … Continue reading →

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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown: Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count

Posted on November 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another useful talk from Brené Brown, which explores creativity, criticism and how she has learned to deal with it. She talks about how important it is that those of us she calls the ‘sweaty creatives’ – or, borrowing from Theodore Roosevelt’s famous words, … Continue reading →

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Micaela Blei – New York City Moth StorySLAM – ‘Altered’

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Micaela’s winning story. Beautiful, on many levels….. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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