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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

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What to do when you’re not the hero any more – Laurie Penny

Posted on January 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/culture/film/2015/12/what-do-when-youre-not-hero-any-more Good article from Laurie Penny, about the shifting sands of contemporary cultural heroism in fiction. The writer (like one of the commentators on the article) thinks Laurie is a touch unfair to Joseph Campbell, and that his work is more balanced, … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on the challenges (and grace) of being alive

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Love and service are my business’ With humour, grace and gratitude. Thanks, Anne. Helpful reminders. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Forty Days – Paul Kingsnorth

Posted on October 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalonenessproject.org/library/articles/forty-days A counter-cultural invitation by Paul to explore the creative potential of withdrawing and of being alone, in the context of his own longings for withdrawal. As the introduction here puts it:- ‘He explains and reinterprets his childhood dreams of withdrawal … Continue reading →

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Social Change: Working With the Inner & Outer Dimensions of Self Organization – Justine Corrie

Posted on September 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pioneers-for-change/social-change-working-wit_b_8104548.html The writer stumbled upon this earlier this week, and it set a big gong vibrating for her… In our view too, these are the key elements in the cultural shifts we so urgently need to make as a species. … Continue reading →

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John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

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Coming together and falling apart – Pema Chödrön

Posted on April 17, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. … Continue reading →

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Resisting “Children’s Mental Health Care” in America and Beyond – Laura Delano

Posted on March 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://recoveringfrompsychiatry.com/2015/03/childrens-mental-health-care-in-america/ Click on the link for Laura’s powerful piece about medicating our children. This has a U.S. perspective – and these are also live issues in the U.K. We are concerned about many aspects of this, not least the power … Continue reading →

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Shel Silverstein on validation

Posted on February 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Little Boy and the Old Man ‘Said the little boy, “Sometimes I drop my spoon.” Said the old man, “I do that too.” The little boy whispered, “I wet my pants.” “I do that too,” laughed the old man. … Continue reading →

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