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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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I’m a Therapist, But I’m Not Your Therapist – Kathleen Smith

Posted on December 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thecut.com/2017/12/therapist-friends-ask-for-advice.html?utm_campaign=sou&utm_source=fb&utm_medium=s1 Click on the link above for Kathleen’s thoughtful and perceptive piece…. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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The Touch of Madness – David Dobbs

Posted on October 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://psmag.com/magazine/the-touch-of-madness-mental-health-schizophrenia Click on the link above for this wonderful (lengthy – and well worth the time investment) piece. Nev’s perspective aligns with how we see ‘madness’ at this service. Thank you, David – and Nev. Also thanks to Jason Hine, … Continue reading →

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer – The Invitation

Posted on September 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to … Continue reading →

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Paulo Coelho on Awakening love

Posted on September 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings … Continue reading →

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Suzanne Moore on Leonard Cohen, death & Marianne

Posted on August 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/aug/08/leonard-cohen-letter-to-marianne-ihlen-was-poetic-and-candid?utm_term=Autofeed&CMP=fb_cif#link_time=1470654768 Click on the link for this article by Suzanne Moore about Leonard Cohen’s beautiful letter sent to Marianne Ihlen, his erstwhile partner and muse, as she lay dying at 81. The writer of this blog post cried considerably when … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott – Love is sovereign here

Posted on July 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have a bit of a theme this week around how helpfully to respond to the violence and craziness in our world, our fear and sense of powerlessness in the face of all that, and our own more difficult feelings. Follow … Continue reading →

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Belonging: Be the Longing – Toko-pa

Posted on March 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of this piece for Toko-pa’s wonderful post. ‘The ache to belong in friendship and community can be so pervasive that it colours everything we do.‘ The writer stumbled across these words yesterday, and … Continue reading →

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Henri Nouwen on friendship & shadow

Posted on March 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is a twilight zone in our hearts that we ourselves cannot see. Even when we know quite a lot about ourselves – our gifts and weaknesses, our ambitions and aspirations, our motives and our drives – large parts of … Continue reading →

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The Life of Death – Marsha Onderstijn

Posted on February 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Extraordinarily resonant and tender animated film, about relationship, love, loss and letting go. Five minutes of beauty and heartswell. The writer sobbed, and felt softer and more loving afterwards. Gorgeous music too by Ramon de Wilde. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling … Continue reading →

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