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Tag Archives: loving kindness
Our Power to Bless One Another – John O’Donohue
Here’s the wording, for those who have trouble seeing Facebook posts:- ‘OUR POWER TO BLESS ONE ANOTHER In the parched deserts of postmodernity a blessing can be like the discovery of a fresh well. It would be lovely if we … Continue reading →
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Gil Bailie on the Crucifixion & Blame
“The surest way to miss the link between the cure (the crucifixion and its aftereffects) and the disease (the structures of scapegoating violence upon which all human social arrangements have depended) is to read the passion story with an eye … Continue reading →
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John O’Donohue – Easter Blessing
It can be hard at times not to become overwhelmed by personal pain, the pain of those we love, and the pain in – and of – our world. And, in that overwhelm, to move into anger, despair, destructive actions. Today, John’s … Continue reading →
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Brené Brown on empathy, compassion and boundaries
‘Empathy: if you have done your work and set your boundaries, you can tread that water forever and not get tired. Amen’. Yes. Empathy in the sense Brené is exploring does not deplete us, nor does it sit with our … Continue reading →
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To Go Beyond Thought – Karen Armstrong
Click on the link below for a wonderful, wide-ranging piece by Karen, with gratitude to Parabola Magazine. Here’s a taste:- ‘When a child dies, we want a scientific explanation but that’s not all we need. We need some kind of … Continue reading →
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‘In the bleakness of the Calais migrant camp, a light shines out’ Jonathan Freedland
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/dec/25/calais-migrant-camp-refugees?CMP=fb_gu The writer has been watching the refugee crisis and the Calais situation with a similar mix of anger, despair and hope. It seems ever more futile to look to elected governments for ethics or humanity or any interest in the … Continue reading →
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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs
This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →
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The Only Thing – William Taylor, Jr
The Only Thing “To be beautiful in spite of everything. that is what is needed. In spite of the ugliness of these times and of this people. In spite of what you have done and what has been done to … Continue reading →
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Jonathan Carroll with a story about random kindness
A New York taxi driver living through the core conditions. There is something really touching about this when-it-counts empathy – and the fragility and risk of that, how easy it would be to miss such a moment and its immense significance. “Three … Continue reading →
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Liz Gilbert on Mercy
Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1408866730/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448297023&sr=1-1&keywords=elizabeth+gilbert+big+magic And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/mary-gauthier-mercy-now/ Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →
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