Category Archives: touch

Mark Nepo on presence and directness

Posted on October 10, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We waste so much energy trying to cover up who we are when beneath every attitude is the want to be loved, and beneath every anger is a wound to be healed and beneath every sadness is the fear that … Continue reading →

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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on what to do, if you don’t know how to love today

Posted on September 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- “If you don’t know how to love today or you are stressed, or in sadness or can’t feel your heart today, then just do some tiny thing, some little … Continue reading →

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Joy – David Whyte

Posted on September 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

David has dedicated this post today on his Facebook page to his daughter, who is beginning college. May all those venturing into the world, and those who love them, experience joy and aliveness. Here is the text, for those who … Continue reading →

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Animal courtships, performed by humans

Posted on April 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It’s a first in our history to post a condom advert, but we enjoyed this piece of whimsy, which has some depth and beauty – and we thought you might too… Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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‘The Truelove’ David Whyte

Posted on February 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful poem about coming home to love, from David. Lovely picture too. One or two of our readers are having difficulty reading some FB links, so here is the text:- THE TRUELOVE There is a faith in loving fiercely the … Continue reading →

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The Life of Death – Marsha Onderstijn

Posted on February 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Extraordinarily resonant and tender animated film, about relationship, love, loss and letting go. Five minutes of beauty and heartswell. The writer sobbed, and felt softer and more loving afterwards. Gorgeous music too by Ramon de Wilde. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling … Continue reading →

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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

Posted on January 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →

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Mouthful of Forevers by Clementine von Radics

Posted on December 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I am not the first person you loved. You are not the first person I looked at with a mouthful of forevers. We have both known loss like the sharp edges of a knife. We have both lived with lips … Continue reading →

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