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Dr. Gabor Maté on Donald Trump, Traumaphobia & Compassion – John Lavitt

Posted on January 4, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-donald-trump-traumaphobia-and-compassion-interview ‘…a few days ago, I met a young woman who was an emergency room physician in Detroit, and she had graduated from medical school in Michigan. Although I knew the answer, I asked her how many lectures she had … Continue reading →

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The Moment – Margaret Atwood

Posted on October 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The moment when, after many years of hard work and a long voyage you stand in the centre of your room, house, half-acre, square mile, island, country, knowing at last how you got there, and say, I own this, is … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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What Taking Care of Yourself Really Means – Elizabeth Gilbert

Posted on August 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Elizabeth-Gilbert-Practical-Ways-To-Practice-Self-Care?FB=fb_sss_gilbert_self_care Click on the link above for this vitally important and approachable piece by Liz Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’) on how to make sense of the – so difficult for so many – idea of loving yourself:- … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on Responding to current challenges

Posted on August 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

More compassion and wisdom from Anne Lamott, for our U.S. readers, and all of us feeling fear and grief about some of what is happening in our world. Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

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Do Psychiatrists Harm their Patients out of Stupidity? Michael Cornwall

Posted on June 26, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.madinamerica.com/2017/06/do-psychiatrists-harm-patients-out-of-stupidity/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.madinamerica.com for this accurate, perceptive piece by Michael about the ‘disease model’ of psychiatry, which lacks both an evidence base and humanity, and challenges basic common sense. Michael is writing in the … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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Woman was too scared to leave job centre during a heart attack, fearing sanctions – Kitty S Jones

Posted on May 26, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://kittysjones.wordpress.com/2017/05/20/woman-was-too-scared-to-leave-job-centre-during-a-heart-attack-as-she-feared-being-sanctioned/ Click on the above link to visit Kitty’s blog for this piece on the brutal, damaging DWP work assessment system. This begins with one woman’s appalling experience, and then makes some general points. Kitty refers to Ken Loach’s powerful, … Continue reading →

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‘Trump, Clinton and Trauma’ Gabor Maté

Posted on March 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://drgabormate.com/trump-clinton-trauma/ Click on the link above for this perceptive, accurate and topical article from Gabor from last October – before the U.S. presidential result – on trauma markers in our political leaders, and how levels of trauma normalized in our … Continue reading →

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