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The Loneliness of Donald Trump – Rebecca Solnit

Posted on June 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://lithub.com/rebecca-solnit-the-loneliness-of-donald-trump/ Click on the link above to visit http://www.lithub.com for this perceptive and sad piece by Rebecca. ““They were careless people,” F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote of the rich couple at the heart of The Great Gatsby. “They smashed up things and … Continue reading →

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Elisabeth Kubler-Ross on living while we’re alive

Posted on October 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“It is not the end of the physical body that should worry us. Rather, our concern must be to live while we’re alive – to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade … Continue reading →

Posted in awakening, conditions of worth, consciousness, cultural questions, dying, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, empowerment, external locus, fear, human condition, identity, internal locus of evaluation, meaning, non-conforming, organismic experiencing, physical being, presence, self, self concept, spirituality | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, aliveness, autonomy, awakening, conditions of worth, conforming, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, existential meaning, external authority, external locus, fear of death, fear of dying, fear of life, fear of living, inner authority, internal authority, internal locus, living fully, loss of self, low cost counselling exeter, meaning of life, mortality, non conforming, organismic, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, people pleasing, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, personhood, presence, pretending, purpose of life, seeking acceptance, seeking approval, self concept, self-structure, selfhood, spiritual death, trusting your experience, trusting yourself, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Not This – Liz Gilbert

Posted on April 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A helpful post from Liz (‘Eat, Pray, Love’) Gilbert. Many of the people who come to our service have reached the point of ‘Not This’. Those arriving at this realization may have no idea how to extricate themselves from the situation they are … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on Living in the Questions

Posted on April 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://mariashriver.com/blog/2016/04/prime-book-brene-brown-courage-vulnerability-peter-freed/?utm_source=Current+Users&utm_campaign=6c8a4c7de2-April_8_Send_Out_4_8_2016&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_53bf79976c-6c8a4c7de2-35203661&mc_cid=6c8a4c7de2&mc_eid=baf214491e Brené talking about what the maturation process has looked like for her… We agree – learning to live in the questions is also what we see unfolding in therapy. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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Carl Rogers on Loneliness

Posted on January 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There are many ways of looking at loneliness, but I wish to focus on two elements of the sense of aloneness which we so often see in our clients and in others. The first is the estrangement of man from … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, Carl Rogers, communication, conditions of worth, conflict, Disconnection, empathy, external locus, human condition, identity, interconnection & belonging, loneliness, organismic experiencing, perception, person centred, person centred theory, relationship, self concept | Tagged acceptance, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, aloneness, authentic experience, awareness, Carl Rogers, Carl Rogers Reader, conditions of worth, consciousness, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, denied aspects of self, disconnection, divided self, facade, hidden self, hiding, Howard Kirschenbaum, Johari, lack of relationship, loneliness, low cost counselling exeter, organismic, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, perception, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, pretending, real self, realness, self concept, self perception, self-structure, shadow, Valerie Land Henderson, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Lessons from the Mental Hospital: Glennon Doyle Melton at TED

Posted on May 22, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Powerful account from Glennon of her personal journey – through conditions of worth and pretence into self-acceptance; through using alcohol, drugs and eating to disconnect from difficult experience/emotion, into organismic experiencing and connection with her feeling self/others. Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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