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Keeping Quiet – Pablo Neruda

Posted on May 5, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Keeping Quiet ‘Now we will count to twelve and we will all keep still. For once on the face of the earth, let’s not speak in any language; let’s stop for one second, and not move our arms so much. … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Posted on August 31, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön: What to Do When You Lose It Completely

Posted on July 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Just under 3 minutes of gold from Pema. What she suggests is a pause, a directing of the attention inwards, rather than into an/another explosion outwards of resentment or aggression. The purpose is an opening and a softening, to self … Continue reading →

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EU Referendum: Time For Compassion & Ditch The Spiritual Bypass – Clare Josa

Posted on June 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.dancinginyoursoulshoes.com/eu-referendum-spiritual-bypass/ Click on the link for this important article by Clare about how – and how not to – respond to shock, fear, grief and loss in others and in yourself. It includes a film with Clare talking about how … Continue reading →

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Advocating for a global strategy of ‘generosity through sharing’ Rajesh Makwana

Posted on April 9, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of the post for this interesting and important piece. The writer doesn’t see all the detail quite like Rajesh – and is with him on the gravity of the issues, the principles he outlines … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön on Blaming

Posted on March 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who’s right and who’s wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

Posted on January 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →

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The Ecology of Language – Abbie Simmonds

Posted on November 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://dark-mountain.net/blog/the-ecology-of-language/ Fascinating piece by Abbie, about the ways in which language holds and shapes (or can limit/reduce) meaning, personally, collectively, spiritually – and has the power to connect us with our embodied experiencing and with the land. She quotes Wade Davis:- … Continue reading →

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The Boy in the Closet — How I Lost my Best Friend to a Label by Margaret Altman

Posted on August 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.madinamerica.com/2015/08/the-boy-in-the-closet-how-i-lost-my-best-friend-to-a-label/ ‘Diagnoses such as schizophrenia mask all of the strengths, feelings and talents that individuals possess, The labels can make people’s behavior appear aggressive, when in fact they are terrified. On the other hand, people in extreme states respond as all humans do to an approach … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön – Getting Unstuck

Posted on August 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer has read a fair amount by Pema Chödrön, but this is the first time she has heard her speak….liking her energies, and the sense she gives of groundedness in herself. This is a useful talk on the importance … Continue reading →

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