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Mark Nepo on presence and directness

Posted on October 10, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We waste so much energy trying to cover up who we are when beneath every attitude is the want to be loved, and beneath every anger is a wound to be healed and beneath every sadness is the fear that … Continue reading →

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Parker J. Palmer on Integrity and wholeness

Posted on October 11, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“By choosing integrity, I become more whole, but wholeness does not mean perfection. It means becoming more real by acknowledging the whole of who I am.” Parker J Palmer – The Courage to Teach: Exploring the Inner Landscape of a … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer – The Invitation

Posted on September 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to … Continue reading →

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her – Vera De Chalambert

Posted on December 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2016/11/18/veradechalambert-kali/ Click on the link to visit http://www.rebellesociety.com for Vera’s brilliant article, which lays a sensitive finger on the cultural pulse – and not only in the U.S. Reading this, the writer felt it was the most important thing she … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on being & expressing yourself

Posted on October 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘you tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful but i was not made with a fire in my belly so i could be put out i was not made with a lightness in my tongue … Continue reading →

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The Space Between Stories – Lissa Rankin

Posted on August 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Space Between Stories Click on the link for this beautiful, deep piece from Lissa. Here’s a taste:- “This week, I experienced a trauma that collapsed my story of self, yet a new story has not yet emerged. Charles Eisenstein … Continue reading →

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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano ‘Six Years after Booze’

Posted on February 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below, for a powerful post from Laura. We regularly feature her work on this blog. Huge respect for her personal journey, and her commitment to challenging the current toxic psychiatric paradigm. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter … Continue reading →

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Michael Kahn on the ‘extraordinarily radical’ nature of person-centred

Posted on January 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Genuineness, empathy and unconditional positive regard – these, then, are the three attributes that Rogers thought necessary to a successful clinical relationship. I’m sure it has occurred to you that if any of us could always be fully genuine, empathic, … Continue reading →

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