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Belonging: Be the Longing – Toko-pa

Posted on March 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of this piece for Toko-pa’s wonderful post. ‘The ache to belong in friendship and community can be so pervasive that it colours everything we do.‘ The writer stumbled across these words yesterday, and … Continue reading →

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Henri Nouwen on friendship & shadow

Posted on March 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is a twilight zone in our hearts that we ourselves cannot see. Even when we know quite a lot about ourselves – our gifts and weaknesses, our ambitions and aspirations, our motives and our drives – large parts of … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

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Getting ready for school – Pennie Brownlee

Posted on November 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click to access getting_ready_for_school_2.pdf Sensitive, intelligent, useful piece on an important theme…. what is early schooling most usefully about, if it is to serve our children both in their childhoods and their lives as adults? We don’t work with under 18s at … Continue reading →

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This Is What A Suicidal Crisis Looks Like From The Inside – Alaina Mabaso

Posted on September 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.depressionarmy.com/ourblog/2015/8/2/this-is-what-a-suicidal-crisis-looks-like-from-the-inside Very powerful piece by Alaina, for which many thanks. I know this landscape of bleak despair, and the urge to die. Since I was a teenager, I have visited it from time to time. During my training as a … Continue reading →

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The Boy in the Closet — How I Lost my Best Friend to a Label by Margaret Altman

Posted on August 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.madinamerica.com/2015/08/the-boy-in-the-closet-how-i-lost-my-best-friend-to-a-label/ ‘Diagnoses such as schizophrenia mask all of the strengths, feelings and talents that individuals possess, The labels can make people’s behavior appear aggressive, when in fact they are terrified. On the other hand, people in extreme states respond as all humans do to an approach … Continue reading →

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Saving Castaways via Upworthy

Posted on August 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Incredibly moving film about compassion, redemption and the value of all life. If you are looking for an antidote to some of what is going on in our world, and for some hopefulness, you could go further and fare … Continue reading →

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Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch – Mark Greene

Posted on March 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-touch-isolation-how-homophobia-has-robbed-men-of-touch/ Intelligent and humane article from Mark Greene via http://www.goodmenproject.com. In the writer’s view, this is a cultural issue going beyond touch between men, and issues around sexual identity or homophobia – huge as these are. As Mark acknowledges, our … Continue reading →

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I Will Always Find You: The Homing of Human Connection – Drake Spaeth

Posted on March 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.saybrook.edu/newexistentialists/posts/02-26-15 Profound post from Drake on the wonderful Saybrook University site, about intuitive, embodied connection in relationship with ourselves/others, and within the web of life/our experiencing – and the support this offers us in finding our way:- ‘All of us … Continue reading →

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Shel Silverstein on validation

Posted on February 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Little Boy and the Old Man ‘Said the little boy, “Sometimes I drop my spoon.” Said the old man, “I do that too.” The little boy whispered, “I wet my pants.” “I do that too,” laughed the old man. … Continue reading →

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