Tag Archives: competitive

‘Trump, Clinton and Trauma’ Gabor Maté

Posted on March 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://drgabormate.com/trump-clinton-trauma/ Click on the link above for this perceptive, accurate and topical article from Gabor from last October – before the U.S. presidential result – on trauma markers in our political leaders, and how levels of trauma normalized in our … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, bullying, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, cultural questions, diagnoses of ADHD, Disconnection, emotions, empathy, Gabor Mate, generational trauma, growing up, identity, parenting, political, power and powerlessness, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, trauma | Tagged abusive parenting, adapted child, addictive behaviour, ADHD, adult personality, affordable counselling exeter, Art of the Deal, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, authenticity, authoritarian, authoritarian traits, autocratic traits, bullying, child personality, childhood trauma, cold heartedness, compensating patterns, competitive, conditions of worth, conviction of weakness, coping mechanisms, core fear, core pain, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural emotional underdevelopment, denial of trauma, denying reality, developing impulse control, dismissive parent, distorted emotional development, distorted reality, distorting experience, distorting reality, dogmatism, Donald Trump, early trauma, emotional abuse, emotional coldness, emotional development, emotionally cold parent, empathy, eruptions of rage, escaping from pain, false persona, feeling emotion, forming a persona, Gabor Mate, grandiose behaviour, grandiosity, harsh environment, helpless child, inability to concentrate, inability to pay attention, inauthenticity, indicators of trauma, infantile self regard, insulation against reality, John Ibbitson, judgemental parenting, Kevin Dutton, labeling, labelling, lack of nurture, lack of nurturing care, lack of principles, learned behaviour, low cost counselling exeter, low self esteem, lying as personality trait, manipulation, markers of trauma, mental states, misogyny, mode of survival, mother wound, motor mouth, narcissistic obsession, narcissistic personality disorder, negative self worth, negative sense of self worth, no early memory, no memories of childhood, not paying attention, NPD, obsessive behaviour, opaque persona, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, poor concentration, poor impulse control, poor recall of childhood, psychiatric labelling, psychiatric labels, public self destruction, reality denial, regulating emotions, repressing awareness, repressing experience, repressing memory, repressing pain, revenge on mother, seductiveness, self centered impulsivity, self concept, self destructing, self image, self obsession, self promotion, self protection, self-structure, short attention span, Stephen Harper, suppressing awareness, suppressing experience, suppressing memory, suppressing pain, survival mechanisms, survival modes, Tony Schwartz, traits of psychopathy, trauma defences, trauma indicators, trauma manifestations, trauma markers, tuning out, tuning out as a way of coping with emotional hurt, tuning out as a way of coping with stress, unconscious beliefs, value of competition, verbal abuse, verbal patterns, verbally abusive parent, well nurtured children, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Charles Eisenstein on the New Story & Separation

Posted on September 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Even though science as we know it is central to the centuries-long or millennia-long program to master nature, even though its approach to gathering knowledge is the very model of “othering” nature and making the world into an object, scientifically … Continue reading →

Posted in awakening, Charles Eisenstein, civil rights, compassion, cultural questions, Disconnection, ecological, ecological issues, education, embodiment, empowerment, ethics, external locus, growth, human condition, medical model, natural world, non-conforming, objectification, paradigm shift, political, power and powerlessness, teaching, transformation | Tagged achievement, activism, affordable counselling exeter, alienating systems, alienation, authority, awakening, body as a thing, body as an object, capitalism, change, changing the system from within, Charles Eisenstein, classism, colonialism, commodity economy, community, competitive, compliance, conformance, conforming, conformity, connection, consciousness, control, controlling, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, dependency, dependency on experts, disease model, disembodiment, disorder model, dominating civilization, domination, embodied experience, embodiment, external locus, industrial food system, intelligence, interbeing, interconnectedness, interconnection, interdependence, lost connections, low cost counselling exeter, materialism, medical model, modern medicine, mythology of separation, nature of reality, normalcy, normalisation, normalization, obedience, objectification, objectifying, othering, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, passivity, person centred counselling exeter, purpose, racism, reality, reductionism, sacred activism, SATs, separate self, separation, sexism, standardisation, standardised schooling, standardization, standardized schooling, story, Story of Separation, theory of change, tolerance to tedium, web of life, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, acceptance, bullying, Charles Eisenstein, compassion, conditions of worth, cultural questions, diversity, education, empathy, ethics, friendship, growing up, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, objectification, paradigm shift, parenting, power and powerlessness, relationship, sadness & pain, scapegoating, self concept, self esteem, shame, shaming, vulnerability | Tagged acceptance, affordable counselling exeter, aggression in children, authenticity, awareness, being a loser, belittling, belonging, Breakfast Club, bullying, bullying behaviour, challenge, Charles Eisenstein, cliques, collective field, compassion, competition, competitive, conditions of worth, cool, coolness, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cruelty, cultural values, cyber-bullying, degrading, demeaning, disrespect, dominating, dominating behaviour, dominator culture, Doug Edmunds, emotional courage, empathy, Eric Heiser, ethics, excluding behaviour, exclusion, forging a new normal, friendship, generosity, gentleness, high school experience, homophobia, inner conflict, inner world, insecurity, insults, intolerance, Jenny Gibson, kind, kindness, labelling, LGBT, low cost counselling exeter, meanness, misogyny, nonviolence, normative ethics, objectification, objectifying, objectifying culture, one upsmanship, oppressing, optimism, othering, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, politics, popularity, power, powerlessness, prevailing social conditions, put downs, racial comity, racism, relationship, Riane Eisler, scapegoating, schooling, self concept, self esteem, self worth, self-structure, sexual discourse, shame, shaming, social banter, social conditions, social confidence, social currency, social exclusion, social institutions, social media bullying, social reality, social status, social values, social worth, strong picking on the weak, subculture, talking behind someone’s back, teen suicide, tolerance, tolerating, unkindness, victimisation, victimising, victimization, victimizing, victims, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk, youth culture | Leave a comment

The Longing for Belonging – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on August 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/charles-eisenstein/indigeneity-and-belonging_b_8011302.html Originally written for our local Schumacher College, in the context of a course Charles was leading. Charles features regularly on this blog – the writer believes him to be one of the important thinkers and writers of our time. … Continue reading →

Posted in awakening, Charles Eisenstein, communication, compassion, consciousness, core conditions, cultural questions, dependence, Disconnection, ecological, education, empathy, empowerment, encounter, equality, ethics, external locus, flow, good, gratitude, growth, guilt, human condition, identity, immanence, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, loneliness, love, meaning, medical model, natural world, non-conforming, objectification, organismic experiencing, paradigm shift, perception, physical being, political, power and powerlessness, presence, reality, relationship, rewilding, self, self concept, spirituality, sustainability, touch, transformation, values & principles | Tagged abundance, achievement, affordable counselling exeter, agency, alienating systems, alienation, aliveness, ancestors, awakening, Becoming Indigenous, belonging, belonging to a place, belongingness, Big Pharma, body as a thing, body as an object, boundaries, capitalism, ceremony, challenge, challenging harm, change, Charles Eisenstein, collective being, coming home, commodity economy, community, competition, competitive, conforming, conformity, connection, consciousness, consumerism, control, controlling, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, dependency, dependency on experts, disease model, disembodiment, disorder model, dominating civilization, domination, eco sexual, ecosexual, embedded, embodied experience, embodiment, external locus, feeling of belonging, Finding Our Way Home, flexible boundaries, flow, fluid boundaries, fluidity, generosity, gift culture, gift interactions, giving, globalisation, globalization, gratitude, group energy, group field, guilt, home, home in the world, homecoming, identity, ideology of reductionism, indigeneity, indigenous, indigenous people, indigenous spirituality, industrial food system, initiation, inseparable, intelligence, interbeing, interconnectedness, interconnection, interdependence, internal locus, intimacy, intimate relationship to nature, intuition, kindness, kinship, lost connections, love, low cost counselling exeter, materialism, medical model, modern medicine, money economy, mythology of separation, native spirituality, nature of reality, non sexual touch, non-separation, normalcy, normalisation, normalization, objectification, objectifying, oneness, oppression, organismic experience, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, participation, patriarchal attitudes, patriarchy, person centred counselling exeter, purpose, reality, receiving, reclaiming a sense of belonging, reductionism, relationship, ritual, Schumacher College, Self, sense of belonging, separate self, separation, sexual touch, sexuality, social relationships, spirituality, standardisation, standardization, story, Story of Separation, strangers, theory of change, Touch, tribe, uniqueness, victim, virtual experience, web of life, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment