Category Archives: Gender & culture

Ahmad Joudeh on being a Syrian dancer

Posted on July 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

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Posted in civil rights, conflict, creativity, cultural questions, cultural taboos, Dance, embodiment, empowerment, flow, Gender & culture, gender identity, identity, internal locus of evaluation, masculine, movement meditation, non-conforming, physical being, political, resilience, risk, self, trauma, violence | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, Ahmad Joudeh, coercion, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, dance as freedom, dance as political, embodiment, external locus, follow your bliss, follow your dream, follow your passion, following your dream, gender and culture, gender identity, internal locus, low cost counselling exeter, Movement Medicine, non conforming, oppression, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, post traumatic stress, PTS, trauma response, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, acceptance, advertising, anger, autonomy, awakening, boundaries, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, consciousness, cultural questions, dependence, Disconnection, embodiment, equality, external locus, feminine, Gender & culture, gender identity, guilt, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, mindfulness, non-conforming, objectification, organismic experiencing, perception, physical being, political, power and powerlessness, presence, reality, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, shame, shaming, trust | Tagged acceptance, accepting the unacceptable, addiction, addictive behaviour, affordable counselling exeter, altering natural responses, anger as energy, avoiding change, beer yoga, being a woman, being everything, being ignored, being interrupted, being shamed, being underestimated, being undermined, being who you are, belonging, body consciousness, body image, camouflage, compulsion, compulsive behaviour, conditioning, conditions of worth, conforming, conformity, conscious living, consciousness, controlling women’s bodies, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural conditioning, cultural disembodiment, cultural pathology, cultural sickness, cultural trauma, dealing with bigotry, dealing with discrimination, dealing with prejudice, disconnecting, disconnecting from emotion, disconnecting from experiencing, disconnecting from feelings, disconnection, disembodied, displacement behaviour, dissociating, doing everything, drink as signifier, drivers, enjoying, enjoyment, equality, escaping reality, experiencing bigotry, experiencing discrimination, experiencing prejudice, facing reality, fairness, faking it, feminine conditioning, feminine role models, feminism, finding enjoyment, finding well being, First World Problems, First World woman, free time, gender oppression, gender privilege, generating well being, intolerable reality, invisibility, it’s not fair, Jiddu Krishnamurti, judginess, judging others, lack of equality, low cost counselling exeter, mansplaining, maternity leave, Matrix, micro aggressions, mindful savoring, mindful savouring, mindfulness, minimising, minimizing, misogyny, need for a drink, needing a drink, no acceptable way to be a woman, no easy way to be a woman, non conforming, non conformity, not knowing, numbing, numbing natural responses, objectification, objectifying, oppression, organismic, overriding yourself, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, patriarchal attitudes, patriarchal oppression, patriarchy, peer pressure, perfection driver, perfectionism, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, Planned Parenthood, purpose of anger, sacred feminine, scarcity of role models, self acceptance, self care, self hatred, self love, self medicating, self rejection, self soothing, self trust, self-loathing, shame, shaming, shaming women, shrinking from reality, sick culture, sick society, sobriety, softening reality, softening the edges, supporting mothers, supporting women, systemic depletion, systemic exhaustion, telling women to smile, toughness, trusting natural responses, trusting who you are, trusting yourself, trying driver, using anger, Vinyasa & Vino, well-being, wetiko, Wetiko Capitalism, wetiko psychosis, Wetikonomy, women drinking, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Ten Meter Tower by Maximilien Van Aertryck & Axel Danielson

Posted on May 17, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://digg.com/video/ten-meter-tower-psychology-experiment Click on the above link to visit http://www.digg.com for this mesmerising and beautiful film from the New York Times – a little over 16 minutes – of people approaching the edge of a 10 metre diving board. There is … Continue reading →

Posted in autonomy, boundaries, communication, conditions of worth, cultural questions, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, external locus, fear, Gender & culture, gender identity, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, non-conforming, perception, physical being, risk, self, self concept, shame, surrender, vulnerability | Tagged 10 meter tower, 10 metre tower, affordable counselling exeter, autonomy, Axel Danielson, being judged, boundaries, challenging experience, conditions of worth, conforming, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, difficult experience, encountering challenge, encountering fear, external locus, fear of being judged, fear of judgment, inner conflict, internal locus, listening to self, low cost counselling exeter, making difficult choices, Maximilien Van Aertryck, need for acceptance, need to belong, non conforming, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, saying no, saying yes, self concept, self-structure, sense of identity, shame, showing fear, surrender process, ten meter tower, ten metre tower, vulnerability, wanting to expand, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

‘Let’s talk about how we address mental health’ Dainius Pūras

Posted on April 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.ohchr.org/EN/NewsEvents/Pages/DisplayNews.aspx?NewsID=21480&LangID=E Click on the above link to visit this U.N. site, for this address by Dainius Pūras on World Health Day. He is a psychiatrist, and representative of the United Nations Human Rights Office of the High Commissioner. If you are … Continue reading →

Posted in anti-depressants, anti-psychotics, autonomy, borderline personality disorder, civil rights, client as 'expert', community, compassion, cultural questions, diagnoses of bipolar, Disconnection, DSM, emotions, empowerment, ethics, external locus, Gender & culture, healing, hearing voices, interconnection & belonging, medical model, objectification, paradigm shift, perception, political, power, psychiatric abuse, psychiatric drugs, psychiatry, psychosis, research evidence, sadness & pain, scapegoating, schizophrenia, shadow, shame, shaming, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, trauma, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged adverse childhood events, adverse childhood experience, adverse social conditions, affordable counselling exeter, biased research outcomes in mental health, biased research outcomes in psychiatry, Big Pharma, biomedical intervention, biomedical model, biomedical reductionism, childhood adversity, childhood adversity and mental health, childhood experience, childhood sexual abuse, coercive drug treatment, coercive psychiatric treatment, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, CSA, Dainius Pūras, disease and disorder model, emotional abuse, forcible drug treatment, forcible psychiatric treatment, gender inequality, low cost counselling exeter, making sense of human suffering, making sense of suffering, medical reductionism, medicalisation of distress, medicalisation of emotion, medicalisation of feeling, medicalisation of human experience, medicalisation of sadness, medicalising childhood, medicalising distress, medicalization, medicalization of distress, medicalization of emotion, medicalization of feeling, medicalization of human experience, medicalization of sadness, medicalizing childhood, medicalizing distress, mental health policy, neurobiological paradigm, over prescription of psychotropic drugs, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, patriarchal model, patriarchy, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, pharmaceutical industry, physical abuse, politics of oppression, power relationships, psychiatric model, psychiatric reductionism, psychosocial model, reductionism, reductionism in biomedical model, reductionism in psychiatry, reductive neurobiological paradigm, reductive paradigm, scientific reductionism, sexual abuse in childhood, social effects of inequality, social effects of poverty, social exclusion, social inequalities, social norms, social problems, talking about mental health, toxic stress, unequal power relationships, vulnerability, working with borderline, working with BPD, working with psychosis, working with schizophrenia, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

An Introduction to Transgender People: National Center for Transgender Equality

Posted on February 28, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have therapists at this service with experience working with transgender people* – and in this culture that work inevitably tends to include experiences of bigotry, discrimination, othering, intrusive behaviour, false assumptions and generalisations…the list goes on. Their clients’ … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, communication, community, compassion, cultural questions, Disconnection, diversity, education, empathy, encounter, equality, ethics, fear, Gender & culture, gender identity, growing up, identity, non-conforming, objectification, Palace Gate Counselling Service, perception, person centred, physical being, political, power and powerlessness, transgender, vulnerability | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, anti discrimination, bigotry, civil injustice, civil rights, compassion, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, dehumanising, dehumanizing, discrimination, diversity, equal rights, equality, fear and hatred, fear and ignorance, gender identity, Human Rights, inclusion, inclusion of difference, inclusivity, injustice, LGBT, low cost counselling exeter, monstering, National Center for Transgender Equality, open mindedness, othering, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, tolerance of difference, transgender equality, transgender experience, transgender people, violent discrimination, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

My Name Is Anneke Lucas & I Was a Sex Slave to Europe’s Elite at Age 6

Posted on December 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalcitizen.org/content/anneke-lucass-harrowing-tale-of-sex-trafficking-am/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=global&utm_campaign=general-content&linkId=32537951 Click on the above link for this painful and harrowing – also wonderful – piece from Anneke. This piece is remarkable in so many ways: for the fact that a human being – a child – can survive such … Continue reading →

Posted in 'evil', abuse, actualizing tendency, autonomy, blaming, childhood abuse, civil rights, consent, core conditions, creativity, criminal justice model, cultural questions, cultural taboos, dependence, empathy, empowerment, ethics, Gender & culture, generational trauma, healing, identity, immanence, internal locus of evaluation, objectification, pornography, power and powerlessness, resilience, sadness & pain, sexual violence, shadow, shame, shaming, trauma, trust, violence, vulnerability | Tagged addiction to power, affordable counselling exeter, Anneke Lucas, autonomy, awareness, Belgian pedophile network, brokenness, carrying shame, child abuse, child rape, child sex abuse, child sexual abuse, childhood sexual abuse, collective darkness, collective shadow, compassion, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, courage to heal, CSD, de-identifying, Dutroux case, egoic damage, empathy, energetic body, expanding awareness, feeling broken, feeling loved, feeling seen, harnessing survival strength, healing damaged ego, healing journey, healing trauma, humanity, humiliating, humiliation, identifying with your experience, Kali, letting go, Liberation Prison Yoga, loving your abuser, low cost counselling exeter, Marc Dutroux, mindfulness, moments of clarity, needing attention, needing love, neglect, objectification, objectifying, oppression, orende, paedophile network, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, patriarchy, pedophile network, person centred counselling exeter, personal shadow, post traumatic growth, power addiction, presence, psychic wound, PTSD, recovering memory, recycling abuse, repressing memory, Seeds Beneath the Snow, self abandonment, self empowerment, self hatred, self healing, self worth, self-loathing, sex slave, shadow, shame, soul death, soul purpose, soul wound, speaking truth, suppressing memory, survival strength, survivors of incest, survivors of sex trafficking, survivors of sexual abuse, taking power, trauma work, trauma wound, trauma wounds, traumatic amnesia, traumatic stress, triggers, words of power, wounded feminine, wounded masculine, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

Posted in communication, cultural questions, cultural taboos, Disconnection, diversity, emotions, empathy, empowerment, ethics, feminine, Gender & culture, growing up, healing, identity, kindness & compassion, loneliness, love, masculine, non-conforming, objectification, paradigm shift, parenting, perception, political, power and powerlessness, relationship, self, self concept, self esteem, sexual being, sexual orientation, sexual violence, shadow, shame, shaming, vulnerability | Tagged activism, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, antisocial behaviour, approval, authority, autonomy, belittling, belonging, binary, blame, body image, bullying, Button Poetry, challenge, child development, claiming personal power, coercive conformity, coercive culture, community, compassion, competition, conditions of worth for boys, conditions of worth for men, conforming, conformity, confrontation, connectedness, conscious living, consciousness, contempt, controlling behaviour, controlling culture, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, cultural difference, cultural distortion, cultural diversity, culture of coercion, culture of control, culture of shame, cycles of shame, defensive, demonising maleness, demonising masculinity, demonizing maleness, demonizing masculinity, desensitization, destructive behaviour, developmental process, developmental trauma, disapproval, disconnection, discrimination, discrimination against men, displaced expression, distorted developmental process, distortions of masculine power, diversity, division, domination, educating boys, education, emotional awareness, emotional connection, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence in men, emotions, empathy, empathy in boys, empathy in men, empowerment, essence of the masculine, exclusion, external authority, external locus, fear, gender, gender and culture, gender and emotion, gender bias, gender discrimination, gender prejudice, Guante, humiliation, individuated man, individuation, inner truth, inner voice, internal dialogue, internalised values, internalized values, introjections, judgement, kindness, Kyle Tran Myhre, loneliness, loss, low cost counselling exeter, man up, masculine, masculine energies, masculine intuition, masculine norms, masculine nurture, masculinity, men and emotion, misuse of power, non-conforming, nurture in men, objectification, oppression, oppressor, ostracism, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, parenting, pathologising maleness, pathologising masculinity, pathologizing maleness, pathologizing masculinity, patriarchal behaviour, patriarchal culture, patriarchy, permission, person centred counselling exeter, personal discovery, personal journey, personal power, personal work, personhood, poetry as activism, political, projection, projective identification, projective reality, public shaming, punishment, punishment for not conforming, reclaiming the masculine, relationship, repression, ridicule, sacred feminine, sacred masculine, self concept, self distortion, self sufficiency, self suppression, self-structure, sensitivity, sensitivity as strength, separation, sexual diversity, sexual shaming, sexualisation of the masculine, sexualization of the masculine, shadow, shame, shaming, shaming as bloodsport, shaming men, shaming of maleness, social isolation, social pressure, stigma, stigmatising, stigmatizing, stoicism, subjective experience, suppression, unconscious behaviour, vulnerability, vulnerability as strength, wounded feminine, wounded masculine, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Brené Brown on Courage

Posted on November 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, … Continue reading →

Posted in Brene Brown, compassion, congruence, core conditions, cultural questions, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, feminine, Gender & culture, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, love, person centred, relationship, risk, shame, trust, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged achievement, achievement culture, affordable counselling exeter, authenticity, being open, being seen, belonging, Brené Brown, compassion, connectedness, connecting with others, connection, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, courage, culture of shame, de-armoring, de-armouring, empathy, existential meaning, heart connection, heart language, heart words, human connection, I Thought It Was Just Me, inner stength, low cost counselling exeter, making connection, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, personal commitment, reclaiming, reclaiming power, risk, shame, sharing narrative, sharing personal experiences, sharing your story, show up and be seen, showing up, speaking from the heart, speaking openly, vulnerability, whole heart, willingness to be seen, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Gender Equality in Iceland

Posted on October 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Encouraging little film from ITV about the Icelandic approach to gender equality. It ends by commenting there is still a 14% pay gap – which recently led to Icelandic women leaving work 14% earlier than their male counterparts, to make … Continue reading →

Posted in cultural questions, education, equality, feminine, Gender & culture, growing up, identity, masculine, perception, self, self concept, teaching | Tagged activism, affordable counselling exeter, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, feminism, gender and culture, gender equality, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Grayson Perry on Gendering & Cultural Pressures

Posted on October 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this useful clip of Grayson Perry talking to Jon Snow on the extent to which gender and masculinity are culturally defined for children before they are even born. We notice at this service the huge … Continue reading →

Posted in child development, conditions of worth, cultural questions, Disconnection, diversity, empathy, Gender & culture, growing up, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, masculine, perception, relationship, self, self concept, shaming, transgender | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, belonging, Channel 4 News Identity, conditions of worth, conditions of worth for boys, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural bias, cultural conditioning, cultural ideas of masculinity, cultural identity, culture and gender, emotional intimacy, external locus, forming relationship, forming self concept, forming self structure, gender identity, gender roles, gender stereotypes, gendering, gendering children, Grayson Perry, healthy relationship, identity, interconnection, interdependence, internal locus, low cost counselling exeter, masculinity, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, repressing emotion, repressing feeling, self concept, self-structure, shaming, shaming boys, shaming men, suppressing emotion, suppressing feeling, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

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