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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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Anthony Lemme on saying ‘yes’ & permission

Posted on May 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Your place is not to tell yourself no; your place is to say yes and then find a way. Whatever it is, it doesn’t need to be perfect, it doesn’t need to be fancy, it doesn’t need to be big. … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on the curse, & blessing, of the Geis

Posted on February 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is an interesting post from Jason Hine, on the ‘Geis’ theme. It’s a ‘friends only’ Facebook post, which he has kindly given us permission to re-post. Jason links to an article on http://www.mythandmore.com – link right at the bottom of … Continue reading →

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How America’s Culture of Shame is a Killer for Boys – Mark Greene

Posted on April 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-why-americas-culture-of-shame-is-killing-us/ This article by Mark is wonderful, and the writer was crying before the end…Although the title gives a masculine focus, the points made are valid for us all, however we self describe/make sense of gender. This is the second … Continue reading →

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The Hope Chest: The writing on the wall – Kim Johancen-Walt

Posted on March 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://ct.counseling.org/2015/03/the-hope-chest-the-writing-on-the-wall/ Interesting couple of case studies with Kim’s thoughts, from Counseling Today, a publication of The American Counseling Association. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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