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Oriah Mountain Dreamer on being lied about

Posted on September 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is only too familiar with the feeling Oriah describes: ‘constricted, shaken, a little frantic….helpless’ – and with the inward and outward impacts of being privately and publicly lied about, with significant harm done. At one level she subscribes … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Posted on August 31, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading →

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Send Forgiveness Viral – The Project

Posted on July 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Stop the outrage and #SendForgivenessViral | Written by Waleed Aly & Tom Whitty (@twhittyer) #TheProjectTV https://t.co/lMonyEhmB5 — #TheProjectTV (@theprojecttv) July 19, 2016 Forgiveness is a tricky word… The writer has often experienced working with a deeply traumatized human being who … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott – Love is sovereign here

Posted on July 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have a bit of a theme this week around how helpfully to respond to the violence and craziness in our world, our fear and sense of powerlessness in the face of all that, and our own more difficult feelings. Follow … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön: What to Do When You Lose It Completely

Posted on July 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Just under 3 minutes of gold from Pema. What she suggests is a pause, a directing of the attention inwards, rather than into an/another explosion outwards of resentment or aggression. The purpose is an opening and a softening, to self … Continue reading →

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Lessons from life undercover – AJ+

Posted on June 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Everybody believes they are the good guy….the only real way to disarm your enemy is to listen to them….as long as your enemy is a sub-human psychopath, that is going to attack you no matter what you do, this never … Continue reading →

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Getting ready for school – Pennie Brownlee

Posted on November 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click to access getting_ready_for_school_2.pdf Sensitive, intelligent, useful piece on an important theme…. what is early schooling most usefully about, if it is to serve our children both in their childhoods and their lives as adults? We don’t work with under 18s at … Continue reading →

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When Another Child Hurts Your Child – Patty Wipfler

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-another-child-hurts-your-child/ Interesting, helpful article from Patty from Hand in Hand Parenting. This one explores helpful/unhelpful responses in this emotionally demanding situation, to the child who has been hurt, to the aggressor and also looks at how the parent can best … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on Who knows what should happen?

Posted on March 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The following is a post from Jason’s Facebook page:- https://www.facebook.com/jason.hine1 Gratitude to him for allowing us to repost it here. ‘Who knows what should happen at any given moment? If a conflict resolution process involving ’empathic listening’ such as non-violent … Continue reading →

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A Person-Centred Take on Conflict Resolution

Posted on May 18, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A Person-Centred Take on Conflict Resolution Click on the title for this Facebook picture and story. Like one or two of the commentators, I am not necessarily sure of the factual accuracy of this – and like others of the … Continue reading →

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