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What Taking Care of Yourself Really Means – Elizabeth Gilbert

Posted on August 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Elizabeth-Gilbert-Practical-Ways-To-Practice-Self-Care?FB=fb_sss_gilbert_self_care Click on the link above for this vitally important and approachable piece by Liz Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’) on how to make sense of the – so difficult for so many – idea of loving yourself:- … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on The New Year Diet

Posted on December 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Characteristic humour and depth from Anne, on a seasonally relevant theme…. This touches on personal experience for me. I have experienced similar battles to Anne’s. In my past life, I regularly embarked on diets. I have also found more of value in deeper connection … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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The Hope Chest: The writing on the wall – Kim Johancen-Walt

Posted on March 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://ct.counseling.org/2015/03/the-hope-chest-the-writing-on-the-wall/ Interesting couple of case studies with Kim’s thoughts, from Counseling Today, a publication of The American Counseling Association. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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