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Maya Luna, on staying with….

Posted on December 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful, accurate poem from Maya’s Facebook page. Here are the words, for anyone who has difficulty reading FB links:- “If you cannot help me If you cannot heal me If you cannot solve My problem Will you stay anyways? Just … Continue reading →

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‘People (often) don’t need help. They need love. Acceptance’ Monica Cassani

Posted on June 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://beyondmeds.com/2017/06/10/people-dont-need-help/ Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s superb resource site: http://www.beyondmeds.com This post describes person-centred in a nutshell, and is what we seek to offer at this service: holding loving space for a person as they explore … Continue reading →

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‘The Poet and the Shepherd’ by Joshua Boettiger

Posted on February 10, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/01/31/the-poet-and-the-shepherd-by-joshua-boettiger/ Click on the link to visit Parabola Magazine for this astonishing article by Joshua Boettiger:- ‘We could say the search for meaning – which is a holy search – becomes imperiled whenever the poet-self and the shepherd-self are out … Continue reading →

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My Name Is Anneke Lucas & I Was a Sex Slave to Europe’s Elite at Age 6

Posted on December 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalcitizen.org/content/anneke-lucass-harrowing-tale-of-sex-trafficking-am/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=global&utm_campaign=general-content&linkId=32537951 Click on the above link for this painful and harrowing – also wonderful – piece from Anneke. This piece is remarkable in so many ways: for the fact that a human being – a child – can survive such … Continue reading →

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Being with my grief for the world – Justine Corrie

Posted on December 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for this timely and resonant post on Facebook by Justine. Here’s the text for those who have trouble reading Facebook links:- ‘Witnessing events and devastating suffering unfolding in Syria this week, exposure of yet more … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on November 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story Click on the link to visit Charles’ website and read this essay. In the writer’s view, Charles is one of the visionaries and big thinkers of our time, because he speaks … Continue reading →

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In That Year – Kim Moore

Posted on October 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

In That Year And in that year my body was a pillar of smoke and even his hands could not hold me. And in that year my mind was an empty table and he laid his thoughts down like dishes of … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on Serving

Posted on May 16, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Many times when we help we do not really serve. . . . Serving is also different from fixing. One of the pioneers of the Human Potential Movement, Abraham Maslow, said, “If all you have is a hammer, everything looks … Continue reading →

Posted in actualizing tendency, core conditions, cultural questions, empowerment, encounter, ethics, external locus, non-directive counselling, perception, person centred, power and powerlessness, presence, Rachel Naomi Remen, relationship, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, working with clients | Tagged Abraham Maslow, actualising, actualizing, affordable counselling exeter, being broken, being of service, brokenness, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, desire to fix, desire to help, ethic of service, experiencing wholeness, expertise, external authority, external locus, feeling broken, fixing, healing, helping others, helping professions, human potential, human potential movement, integrity of life, judgemental, judging, judging others, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, Rachel Naomi Remen, serving, supporting another, therapeutic process, trusting the client, trusting the proces, wholeness, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

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