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Toko-pa on Invitational presence

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →

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Michael Leunig on 7 Types of Ordinary Happiness

Posted on August 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thanks to Tara (and Sido) for this. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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What Taking Care of Yourself Really Means – Elizabeth Gilbert

Posted on August 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Elizabeth-Gilbert-Practical-Ways-To-Practice-Self-Care?FB=fb_sss_gilbert_self_care Click on the link above for this vitally important and approachable piece by Liz Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’) on how to make sense of the – so difficult for so many – idea of loving yourself:- … Continue reading →

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her – Vera De Chalambert

Posted on December 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2016/11/18/veradechalambert-kali/ Click on the link to visit http://www.rebellesociety.com for Vera’s brilliant article, which lays a sensitive finger on the cultural pulse – and not only in the U.S. Reading this, the writer felt it was the most important thing she … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer on meeting weariness of spirit

Posted on October 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This Facebook post from Oriah Mountain Dreamer feels like an important one, for any of us experiencing dips into despair, overwhelm and lassitude at the state of our world, and the apparent immensity of the task for those of us … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Shadow Work & Love

Posted on September 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here is the text for those who have difficulty in reading Facebook links:- ‘To do the work of the shadow, to travel along the descendent current with your heart open, is a radical act of kindness and courage. For when … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa – The Sacred Descent

Posted on August 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Sacred Descent Click on the link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this brief reflection on allowing ourselves to drop down into our own darkness from a place of intention (rather than powerlessness):- ‘There in the underworld of grief, loss … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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