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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Posted on August 31, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on finding our feelings in therapy

Posted on August 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I suspect we could all tell a story similar to that told by the playwright David Hare recalling his childhood in post-war Britain: ‘In the other half of our semi-detached lived a solicitor and his wife. She had perfectly mastered … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on art, complexity & ambiguity

Posted on July 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This extract is from a recent acquisition to the library here, ‘The Hope of Therapy’ by Paul Gordon. He describes it as “an argument for… therapeutic freedom” as an essential element of creativity. His premise is that therapy cannot meaningfully be reduced to techniques, … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts – You’re It

Posted on December 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Alan Watts doing what he does…. On the nature of reality, and on fear. Deep and thoughtful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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There is nothing wrong with you

Posted on October 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/07/06/there-is-nothing-wrong/ Very helpful post, as so often, from Monica Cassani’s rich collection of resources, links, articles and reflections: http://www.beyondmeds.com Monica’s body of work is invaluable to anyone engaging with what it is to be human, anyone working in our own … Continue reading →

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An Antidote to the Age of Anxiety: Alan Watts on Happiness & How to Live with Presence – Maria Popova

Posted on May 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.brainpickings.org/index.php/2014/01/06/alan-watts-wisdom-of-insecurity-1/ Useful article from Maria Popova at http://www.brainpickings.org on Alan Watts and ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’. The writer especially liked Alan’s observations about awareness and thought:- ‘While you are watching this present experience, are you aware of someone watching it? … Continue reading →

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