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We Were Made For These Times – Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Posted on May 18, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.grahameb.com/pinkola_estes.htm Click on the link for this beautiful and inspiring piece from Clarissa. It won’t be new to some of you….and stands repeating. Thanks to Jewels Wingfield on Facebook for a timely reminder of this passage, in the run up … Continue reading →

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The Lid is Off – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on October 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Lid is Off Click on the link above for this perceptive, important piece by Charles Eisenstein on www/charleseisenstein.net And here are some book links:- https://www.amazon.co.uk/Beautiful-Hearts-Possible-Sacred-Activism/dp/1583947248/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-1&keywords=charles+eisenstein https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sacred-Economics-Money-Society-Transition/dp/1583943978/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-2&keywords=charles+Eisenstein https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ascent-Humanity-Civilization-Human-Sense/dp/1583946365/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-3&keywords=charles+eisenstein Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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Questions Before Dark – Jeanne Lohmann

Posted on June 1, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Day ends, and before sleep when the sky dies down, consider your altered state: has this day changed you? Are the corners sharper or rounded off? Did you live with death? Make decisions that quieted? Find one clear word that … Continue reading →

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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on being received as we are

Posted on April 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer loved the Sigmund Freud quote…. Resonates with how we see therapy at this service, and the person-centred approach. Being received with love, just as we are right now, is such a powerful healing agent….. It seems a tragedy – when Sigmund Freud could … Continue reading →

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The Ecology of Language – Abbie Simmonds

Posted on November 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://dark-mountain.net/blog/the-ecology-of-language/ Fascinating piece by Abbie, about the ways in which language holds and shapes (or can limit/reduce) meaning, personally, collectively, spiritually – and has the power to connect us with our embodied experiencing and with the land. She quotes Wade Davis:- … Continue reading →

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