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Jason Hine on Grief, Praise, Love & Presence
Here’s the text for those who have difficulty following Facebook links:- ‘I wrote this a few years ago: Spiritual teachers, philosophers and some psychotherapists tell us that it is beneficial to live in the present moment, that ultimately only the … Continue reading →
Posted in awakening, conditions of worth, consciousness, cultural questions, dying, embodiment, emotions, flow, gratitude, grief, interconnection & belonging, Jason Hine, love, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, surrender, violence, vulnerability
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Tagged affordable counselling exeter, aliveness, attending to vulnerability, being broken open, being present to life, belief systems, bereavement, body as the gateway, celebrating life, coercion and control, coercive control, coercive culture, connectedness, connecting wih the body, controlling culture, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, culture of violence, deeper being, descending into the body, difficult feelings, distracting, embodiment, embodying love, entering life, feeling fully alive, feeling heartbroken, feeling our feelings, fierce love, flow, following ideology, goal orientation, grief, grief and love, grief as praise, ground of all being, hatred, heartbrokenness, holding on, holding on tight, imperfection, impermanence, in the now, in the present moment, interbeing, interconnection, Jason Hine, love and grief, love and impermanence, love and loss, love for life, loving imperfection, low cost counselling exeter, mainstream culture, making mistakes, Martin Prechtel, our wild selves, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, praise and love, presence, radical love, relationship, seeking fulfilment, spirituality, striving, struggling, transience, vulnerability, we are the love we are seeking for, wild self, wildness, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk
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Mary Oliver on Love & its necessary wildness – Brainpickings
Mary Oliver on Love and Its Necessary Wildness Lovely piece, beautiful poems, and a wonderful conversation between Mary and Krista Tippett for On Being – as Maria says ‘feast your soul’. Thank you, as ever, to Maria Popova and Brainpickings. Here’s the book … Continue reading →
Posted in awakening, beauty, communication, consciousness, creativity, embodiment, emotions, encounter, gratitude, grief, human condition, immanence, interconnection & belonging, loss, love, Maria Popova, Mary Oliver, meaning, perception, physical being, presence, relationship, risk, sadness & pain, sexual being
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Tagged Adam Phillips, affordable counselling exeter, aliveness, art as mirror, awakening, bereavement, Brainpickings, carpe diem, coming home to ourselves, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, creatureliness, existential meaning, familiarity, Felicity, finding meaning, grief, habit, homecoming, human spirit, insecurity, Krista Tippett, loss, loss of partner, love poems, love poetry, low cost counselling exeter, Maria Popova, Mary Oliver, mirroring, mortality, mystery, On Being, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, Patti Smith, person centred counselling exeter, poetry, psychology of love, redemption, remembering ourselves, romantic love, security, seizure of happiness, sexual love, sexual relationship, spiritual wisdom, surviving a partner, transcendence, transience, uncertainty, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk
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Breaking News: The Cause of Schizophrenia Finally Discovered? Noel Hunter
http://psychintegrity.org/breaking-news-the-cause-of-schizophrenia-finally-discovered/ Follow the above link for Noel’s piece. It’s a long, well-written and well researched article, essential reading for anyone in our line of work. The writer too has watched with some dismay, the viral description of the Sekar et al. … Continue reading →
Posted in abuse, anti-psychotics, bullying, child development, childhood abuse, consent, creativity, criminal justice model, cultural questions, Disconnection, emotions, empathy, empowerment, ethics, external locus, generational trauma, genetics, growing up, hearing voices, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, love, meaning, medical model, neuroscience, non-conforming, objectification, paradigm shift, perception, person centred, political, power and powerlessness, psychiatric abuse, psychiatric drugs, psychiatry, psychosis, relationship, research evidence, sadness & pain, scapegoating, schizophrenia, self, self concept, trauma, values & principles, violence, vulnerability, working with clients
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The Mirror – Soul Searching Solace
http://soulsearchingsolace.com/2015/10/12/the-mirror/ Some time ago, the writer encountered this blog. The author shares with raw authenticity her intense pain – that of a mother whose child has died. There is a lot here to resonate with those of us who are … Continue reading →
Posted in congruence, dying, emotions, fear, grief, identity, interconnection & belonging, loneliness, loss, love, parenting, relationship, sadness & pain, self, trauma, vulnerability
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Tagged affordable counselling exeter, authenticity, belonging, bereavement, Child Loss, configurations of self, congruence, connectedness, connection, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, dealing with tragedy, death, Death of a Child, depression, dying, empathy, emptiness, Family, grief, grieving mother, grieving parent, heartbreak, identity, interconnection, loneliness, loss, loss of a child, loss of meaning, love, low cost counselling exeter, marriage, meaning, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, relationship, sadness, Self, sense of self, suffering, time as healer, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk, www.soulsearchingsolace.com
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The Ecology of Language – Abbie Simmonds
http://dark-mountain.net/blog/the-ecology-of-language/ Fascinating piece by Abbie, about the ways in which language holds and shapes (or can limit/reduce) meaning, personally, collectively, spiritually – and has the power to connect us with our embodied experiencing and with the land. She quotes Wade Davis:- … Continue reading →
Posted in awakening, beauty, cognitive, communication, compassion, conditions of worth, congruence, consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Disconnection, ecological, ecological issues, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, ethics, external locus, family systems, flow, gratitude, grief, growing up, growth, healing, human condition, immanence, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, loss, love, meaning, metaphor & dream, mindfulness, natural world, objectification, organismic experiencing, perception, physical being, poetry, power and powerlessness, presence, reality, relationship, sadness & pain, scapegoating, self, self concept, spirituality, surrender, sustainability, transformation, trust, vulnerability, wonder
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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown
http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994
Posted in abuse, acceptance, actualizing tendency, awakening, blaming, body psychotherapy, bodywork, child development, childhood abuse, communication, conditions of worth, conflict, consciousness, cultural questions, dependence, Disconnection, dying, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, external locus, family systems, fear, forgiveness, generational trauma, grief, growing up, guilt, healing, human condition, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, Jeff Brown, kindness & compassion, loss, love, parenting, perception, person centred, presence, reality, relationship, resilience, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shame, shaming, surrender, transformation, trauma, trust, vulnerability
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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence
http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →
Posted in communication, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, dying, empathy, encounter, friendship, grief, healing, human condition, interconnection & belonging, loneliness, loss, love, non-conforming, presence, relationship, resilience, sadness & pain, self concept, shadow, shame, shaming, tears, transformation, trauma, trust, violence, vulnerability
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Anne Lamott on the challenges (and grace) of being alive
‘Love and service are my business’ With humour, grace and gratitude. Thanks, Anne. Helpful reminders. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994
Posted in Anne Lamott, beauty, child development, cognitive, communication, compassion, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, conflict, congruence, consciousness, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, dying, Eating, education, embodiment, emotions, empathy, encounter, ethics, family systems, fear, friendship, generational trauma, gratitude, grief, growing up, guilt, human condition, humour, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, loneliness, loss, love, meaning, mindfulness, natural world, organismic experiencing, parenting, perception, physical being, power and powerlessness, presence, psychiatric drugs, relationship, resilience, sadness & pain, self concept, spirituality, teaching, tears, trauma, trust, vulnerability
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Kei Miller – Unsung
Just beautiful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994
Posted in creativity, dying, empathy, grief, human condition, interconnection & belonging, Kei Miller, loss, love, parenting, poetry, relationship
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Tagged affordable counselling exeter, belonging, bereavement, connectedness, connection, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, death of father, dying, elegy, empathy, Family, grief, interconnectedness, interconnection, interdependence, Kei Miller, loss, loss of father, love, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, relationship, Unsung, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk
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David Whyte on Heartbreak
‘…heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average life…’ Beautiful, moving, elegiac reflections from David on the meaning and hidden treasures of heartbreak. The writer believes we have an unhelpful cultural tendency … Continue reading →
Posted in acceptance, awakening, beauty, Brene Brown, congruence, consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, David Whyte, dependence, Disconnection, dying, embodiment, emotions, empathy, equality, gratitude, grief, growth, human condition, interconnection & belonging, loss, love, meaning, metaphor & dream, organismic experiencing, perception, poetry, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, self, spirituality, vulnerability
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