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Thomas Merton on the serene disciple

Posted on October 11, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

When in the soul of the serene disciple With no more Fathers to imitate Poverty is a success, It is a small thing to say the roof is gone: He has not even a house. Stars, as well as friends, … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her – Vera De Chalambert

Posted on December 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2016/11/18/veradechalambert-kali/ Click on the link to visit http://www.rebellesociety.com for Vera’s brilliant article, which lays a sensitive finger on the cultural pulse – and not only in the U.S. Reading this, the writer felt it was the most important thing she … Continue reading →

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Not invading, not abandoning… Donald Winnicott

Posted on June 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer was talking to a therapist the other day, who offered her a Donald Winnicott thought – for which many thanks. She cannot quote it directly, as she has not yet been able to track it down (any help … Continue reading →

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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

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The Hope Chest: The writing on the wall – Kim Johancen-Walt

Posted on March 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://ct.counseling.org/2015/03/the-hope-chest-the-writing-on-the-wall/ Interesting couple of case studies with Kim’s thoughts, from Counseling Today, a publication of The American Counseling Association. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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