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What Taking Care of Yourself Really Means – Elizabeth Gilbert

Posted on August 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Elizabeth-Gilbert-Practical-Ways-To-Practice-Self-Care?FB=fb_sss_gilbert_self_care Click on the link above for this vitally important and approachable piece by Liz Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’) on how to make sense of the – so difficult for so many – idea of loving yourself:- … Continue reading →

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How To Create A Homemade New Year’s Ceremony – Elizabeth Gilbert

Posted on January 3, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer agrees with Liz, on the importance of ritual and ceremony, on its unhelpful neglect in our cultures, and on the ‘how’ of creating our own (arising from within, not imposed from without). Don’t be put off by missing … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on creativity & the struggle to find self

Posted on July 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We found this simultaneously distressing and hopeful. Distressing, in terms of the punitive ‘criminal justice’ systems both here and in the U.S., which further disempower, traumatize and dehumanize people who already have a damaging bed rock of those life experiences … Continue reading →

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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Not This – Liz Gilbert

Posted on April 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A helpful post from Liz (‘Eat, Pray, Love’) Gilbert. Many of the people who come to our service have reached the point of ‘Not This’. Those arriving at this realization may have no idea how to extricate themselves from the situation they are … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- Mary Gauthier: ‘Mercy Now’ Palace Gate … Continue reading →

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Elizabeth Gilbert on How Schopenhauer’s Porcupine Dilemma Reveals the Secret of Happiness – Maria Popova

Posted on March 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.brainpickings.org/2012/02/13/elizabeth-gilbert-porcupines/ Click on the link for this piece on Brainpickings by Maria Popova, linking to a short film of Liz Gilbert talking about Schopenhauer’s Porcupines, and our constant movement between reaching into connection and relationship; pulling back into self-protection and … Continue reading →

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Elizabeth Gilbert on Andrew Zolli and resilience

Posted on February 17, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting post from Liz with a link to Krista Tippett’s radio show, “On Being”. The writer has not had time to listen to that yet – and was caught by Liz’s summary of the characteristics Andrew Zolli describes as making … Continue reading →

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Elizabeth Gilbert on Ruin, the ‘bleak shroud of despair’ & actualizing

Posted on April 5, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Elizabeth Gilbert on Ruin, the ‘bleak shroud of despair’ & actualizing Really interesting piece from Elizabeth Gilbert, drawing on her own experiences, about the potential for (painful) transformation through loss and destruction. You can read the whole piece on her … Continue reading →

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